He Called Me a Gold Digger!
Good day CS.This week, I went on a dinner date with a guy. He invited me to his place so we could better talk because its more private and all, I didn't agree. I told him its better that we take time to get to know each other first and for us to take time to have trust before anything more intimate. And also that I wanted to take things slow. He agreed after trying to convince me otherwise the whole time we were at the restaurant.
The next day, he messaged and me to set up a second date. I agreed to meet him after 3 days. I thought, ok this seems promising. The day before the said date, i asked him what the plan was. He then told me, we will stay at his place, watch a movie, and eat something special he'll cook. I reminded him that he agreed to take things slow and that Im still not comfortable going to his place. I suggested it would be better if we go somewhere or do activities like movies or atv riding at red sand. He didn't want those, given the strict laws of saudi about male and female segregation. ( Its always a good card to play for men here, especially when they want to take the girl to his house and make it look like that's the only choice. I understand that some mean it because its truth. But I just can't reconcile it with my consciousness, since Ive been on dates before and nothing happened.) So anyway, we had a discussion where I was trying to reason out with him where I said "oh, I forgot you didn't have a car. It would be difficult to go places together on uber." ( in my mind, usually uber drivers are saudis and they could report us to police and we'd both be in jail.) But after I made that remark, he became distant suddenly.
He didn't message me the whole day next day. And yesterday he messaged me" Hello gold digger" I was so mad I couldn't just brush it off. We went on an argument where I called him a lying AH because he made me believe he was looking for something serious, but when sex was not on the table he disappeared, and he called me a gold digger and Cold because I pointed out out he didn't have a car.
Needless to say I was disappointed because I thought that we had potential.. But what good is potential when its with promised on deceit?
Such a waste of time. At least I had a great burger.
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They divorced and the child went with the father, I don't know/remember if she had a say in the matter, but nonetheless the child is being raised muslim by the father. She was a kind easy going person and didn't seem to have any problem with this.
I bring this to your attention as not knowing if this is custom/culture or any other reasonable explanation. I never thought she liked the end game, and always felt a sadness for her.
just ramblings for me.....by the way, I commend you for your handling of the situation, as the lifestyle in SA is different from most..(but, improving now that women are allowed to drive)...
I have heard men would deliberately do that to women...to challenge them in a way. The would demean them...or something similar...only to challenge to woman to prove them wrong. How could you prove him wrong...perhaps a second date with him.
Anyway...