Belonging to somebody...advantages/disadvantages
Is the concept of belonging to somebody becoming something of the past....belonging in a way that marriage promotes or exclusive relationships promote.What are some of the advantages and/or disadvantages of somebody belonging to you or you belonging to somebody else.
The point is to weigh the pros and cons of each.
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You’re stuck with me......
DEAL WITH IT!!!!!
Hello JS!
Ah-haaaa.....hostage situation.
The way I see it, if you feel owned you will recognise more disadvantage compared to if you feel your with the one you belong with.... advantage is all you can see.
Sometimes I think that sense is stronger than love
What you describe, is the beautiful side to "belonging" to somebody...when both people are in it for selfless ends. However, I wonder if society is as selfless as it once was. Thank you for sharing...in what you describe, it would be an advantage.
I hear what you are saying. If you feel owned and they are beating you like a dog, that would not be to much of an advantage. Basically...that sound like a one way street where one is taking more than the other. Like MC says...and I agree with her when it comes to relationships, if you get into one...a sense of selflessness would need to become a part of it. However, if you listen to messaging today...I am starting to feel that message of not compromising is the fad of the year. Of course in relationships, compromising is necessary. I would think anyway. ....sorry if I got off subject a bit. :)
Thank you for sharing.
Together you both design a flowchart that identifies the issues and choices involved in this belonging and share your ideas
For example ...
IF _ _ _ THEN _ _ _ _
Could any couple initiate an "understanding",prior to belonging, with honest expectations between them.
If would identify specific life choices needed for having the plan go successfully towards mutual satisfaction.
Just an option for weighing those anticipated burdens you would both share.
I find knowing a person before you enter into
sharing your future with them makes the future
a bit more stable- if the planning stage goes well.
You can never know what the future will bring but
it can be bonding to discuss some inevitable
changes and be on the same page beforehand.
Know ahead of time what their serious
discomforts are and how well they know their own coping mechanisms.
I agree with what you say.
I just think we as a society are going down a whole new path, a path does not tolerate much any more...therefore, being with somebody (or belonging to somebody) is going to suffer as a consequence of this "my way or the highway" mentality. I think anyway.
Same goes for neighborhoods banding together.
I still see potential for "lovers", and other acts of selflessness that closeknit communities promote.
internal darkness.
Thank you for sharing. I am curious, you say the more caring and sharing promoted, the less there will be. How do you think that would play out...for what reason do you suspect.
It might be right under your nose.
Under a mask
There's many ways for a person to get committed.
If a person has a few drinks, and then does this
And there you go! A way to get committed.
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We are not objects, nor possessions!!
I like what Itchy said about belonging With, meaning you feel a connection with that person and you are compatible.
Just like you feel you belong to a particular place because you feel at home.
NOBODY BELONGS TO ANYBODY!!
You can have a mutual arrangement with a person..a promise..a contract...but without belonging to them!
Just dropping by....
The only kind of marriage that can come close to that kind of love (and therefore to the belonging that we are looking for), is a fully reciprocal, one that pays the high price to create trust and irrevocable commitment. This is the great miracle and purpose of marriage and life in general—to stretch us through hard times and hard things into becoming “one”. It’s there, in that place of unity, that we experience the deepest joys life has to offer.??
I think in the self-ish...
bitter-struck...
....low-toleration...
....hating..
...narrow-minded..society that is beginning to be born...
That sort of beauty is on the way out of the door.
How about your own opinion
Maybe you have a better concept
Would love to know
Ah Merc...I get it. thumbs up I think that would be heatlhy....I wonder if changing yourself a bit for somebody would be also healthy. dunno Not picking on you Merc, but something I have not genuinely considered to some extent.
Well for example I'm not into smoking pot but I wouldn't ask him to stop because it's not my thing..He might not be into the gym but he shouldn't try and stop me from attending my passion..
I don't think it's healthy to try and change how one thinks about things..It is healthy to be open in communicating how each feels and not wanting to say things what you think that person wants to hear..We all have flaws.
I agree, to some extent...to everything you say.
You mention, you are not into changing how one thinks....and I agree with that.
Maybe where I might disagree with that a bit is...I personally try to enter into situations with as completely an open mind as I can....I try not to incorporate my own personal biases within the moment of the reality that is unfolding in front of me. Therefore, I feel I am open to perceiving and understanding things of life as much as possible....and I believe life is so random and/or complex....that my thinking of any particular thing might be so far off from the reality of that any particular thing....therefore making me possible flawed in my thoughts. And thus, willing to change how I think to some extent.
Very well said..
...People do belong to each other. Once you make a sacrifice for someone, you own part of his or her soul...
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