A female divorce lawyer!

thanks for the advice dude,and i hate it for you, but do you think that she would have been a lousy lawyer even if she was a man?

Hi Rub!! What's going on? This doesn't sound like you??

Was she also blonde ?

JimNastics <-- Yes, she is a blond!!

Oh E, didn't know the story behind it. Sorry.. Can fully understand now. I am actually agreeing you on the part where you mentioned where you think you -as a guy- would be better represented with a male counterpart and vice versa. But also curious as to why you based it on, cause surely it's a case per case scenario :) . i was worried for a second there that you've gone all chauvinistic.. Is all lol

Vent away, dear E.. We all need to do it from time to time..xx

Dude, the ring is a "personal asset". You surely cant expect to count that along with the house, car, cash in the bank etc etc? You did give it as a gift but it sounds like you still think of it as being half yours..........thats pretty weird man.
When you got married what did you say? Was it something along the lines of "all my worldly goods I share with you"..?? Maybe it was nothing like that at all....I have no idea where you married....but the general idea is that you do in fact share your stuff with each other. There's not much point claiming afterwards that you said it but didnt really mean it. Because then you should have had the words changed to "all my worldly goods I share with you....but in the event of divorce they are still really mine". Sorry man but your attitude seems strange to me........anyway hope it works out for you.

Thanks again jokerlips and calmheartseeks for your kind words and support!!

sanfranguy, let's hope you don't get taken by the minister's daughter over seas, for US citizenship and half your assets!!
Be careful, she's the devils daughter in disguise!!

Not always true.I disagree.Mine is a woman and i got a fair deal.My terms were met not a problem.
Cannot stereotype them woman like that.

Hey man, I am more than capable of making mistakes, no problem there. But if I ever get married to a girl with no financial assets, no earning power, zip.......then I do it with my eyes open. You can either believe in true love.....in which case you have to take the consequences or you believe in true cynicism....in which case you take the pre-nup. Come on man.....why do you think divorce is expensive? Because its worth it man! Think about all the things you are going to do in the future that you wouldn't have been able to do if you were still stuck in the cage. Yay! Think positive and move forwards.

Hey Ruben, I understand what you try to say, well may be not exactly everything you try to express, but I think at least the basics. I don’t think I will understand a divorce fully, coz I was never married, in the first place. But I understand the pain, when someone you loved so much takes you for granted, destroying everything you invested in the relationship. Usually, when it happens, you tend to think that your investment in love is in-vain. I experienced the feeling sometime back.

Yes, we believe in love, and in the name of love, we sacrifice things. Later, if we fail in that love, we tend to think that the other party had never been in love, if not for the material benefits we deposited in-to that relationship. It’s so nice to talk about unconditional divine love, but every one of us knows that it’s hard to practice divine love, in real life, coz we are human.

I have this very painful experience, where I invested a lot of me, in a relationship, just to find that it’s not the real person, who he was trying to show me. When you come to a conclusion that the real person is far more different to the one you fell in love with, you find it difficult to make up your mind and go back to the original position. Since we are human, we can’t deny being unhappy about the time and assets invested in a failed relationship. It’s totally different to giving something for charity, it’s your life, you invest in a relationship, not extra means that you could happily disposed of. You may have foregone other very important individual needs, becoz of that love. And if you lose that love, which was precious to you in every-way, you tend to ask yourself, whether that relationship worth half of your life or the number of days you spent, building a beautiful castle, together. In your eyes, the other party has failed you.

But, dear Ruben, relationships fail. It’s inevitable, coz of various reasons. The most obvious reason is that one party loosing the grip, leaving the relationship to shudder, slightly at the beginning, leading to a possible disaster at the end. It takes two to keep the fire burning. Its combined efforts of two individuals. When it’s gone, you feel like it was never there, but hey, it was there, and though it exhausted your energy, don’t forget that it also added some very important factors, like understanding about your own-self. When I lost the things I invested in love, and still survived, I realized that I’m really strong and specially, that no material losses can shake me off.

Take care (sorry about the long comment)

Thank you melodyy, for reading my blog and giving me a long detailed comment, it was not too long, it was just right!!