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One of the criticisms I've faced over the years is that I'm not aggressive enough or assertive enough, or maybe somehow because I'm emphatetic, I'm weak.

I totally rebel against that, I refused to believe that.... You cannot be both compassionate and strong wine
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True compassion is a strength not a weakness. Loving-kindness - compassion arise from understanding nature and interdependent arising of suffering.
An understanding is skillfully achieved through the cultivation of Bodhichitta, that requires study.
comfort
There is no dissonance, nothing of conflict in being kind generous compassionate and assertive. No need for a 'but' these aspects of personality can reside together in harmony. People will rarely use the seemingly opposed sides together - looking at the adjectives students use to describe me ... kind funny meticulous attentive - no one says strict. to have someone say you are aggressive or assertive, it seems, you have to be excessively so.
robplum
Indeed!
that it's somehow means you are not striving hard enough for success or that you haven't "got what it takes". ... Yet the reality is that it is compassion that makes us emotionally strongcheers
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Fargo
It is @ time misinterpreted but they are virtues and qualities that signify a strength of character that serve humanity well and are innately intwined with the success and civilisation of the human speciescheers
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pinay ka ba?
Oh! a hug! First this year maybe for two years, and much treasured.
You can be both.

The exchange is base on the mannerisms of others.

I go back and forth on a daily basis. I show kindness when it is received and I can be hostile when needed to be.
Lafonda
That is so true
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I always encounter dealing people around me
with two versions of me wine wave
Edison
"People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centred; forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; be kind anyway.”
Mother Theresa



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Great piece of writing, appreciated.
Now commenting on your subject, yes you are weak as everybody shall be in the given situation. There is a rule, either be the part of a crowd of the majority, or stay at one of the two extremes.
You can choose to be an unstable free radical or a stable successful person.
Choice is all and always yours.
iotaoo
Without a clear idea of one’s own preferences, making the right choice can be extremely difficult and confusing. Everyone’s personality is unique, and knowing what makes us, us can lead to more life satisfaction and better life choicescheerscheers:
Hi Ysa,

Just want to add. Kindness has a connotation of meaning someone is naive or weak, when actually, that is not the case. Being kind often requires much courage and strength in the face of times when it seems pressures of life and the world want to tear us down.

They say a boxer, an athlete loses as soon as he/she gets upset and loses whatever play or plan they had to win. Anger at times gets the better of a person, then the person may react in saying something or doing something in the heat of the moment, only to regret and apologize for it later, when they perhaps should have been stronger not to erupt, and handle the situation a better way.

Okay, that's my 2 cents of opinion. plus tax cool
If someone criticises you for not being assertive, surely the reply is, "No, I am assertive." giggle
robrtwave
Kindness is one of our core values—and one that has helped us become better in everything we do.
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jacwave
Prove they're wrong would be the best cheers wine
Chesney wave
Good insight handshake
I applaud your finesse!
I find most of these comments disagreeable,
especially as a woman.
I surely am old-fashioned in that regard,
but not shocked by it.
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Rose
Everyone has its own idea then I leave that for youhandshake
Hey Ysa..
It very much sounds like you take other peoples opinions far to seriously when they judge you, myself i don't worry about others opinions when it comes to my actions and life. Because other people are not living my life or taking responsibility for my actions, thats all on myself..
Most likely when a person you know that judges in a particular way and voices their judgment/opinion on your ways, the same will happen to that person and you may be the one that see's weakness in their ways but you may not comment on their weaknesses..
I prefer not to comment with my opinion on the ways of others actions and life unless its a manger safety concern, i would rather let a person learn the life lessons for themselves..
Hey Butch hug howdy?
Well. I would admit I am sensitive as a fish
laugh my nature of being like it somehow made me overcome it as I learn it's effect of being so. Over all I can be a tiger if I need tolaugh wine wave
Jimwave
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wine
All day I felt like I forgot to mention something on your blog.laugh
I didn't get a chance last blog, as I write Sundays
only or DM ( you can not be mailed).

applause It was CONGRATULATIONS on your
dream home. I was very happy for you at the news!
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Rosewave
Thank you.
That was sweet of you.
That dream house is the fruit of my laborgrin wine a perfect place to liveteddybear
Hey Melwave
I think the word is not "pretending"
In the course of the comments and my emphasis of being both compassionate and strong handshake wine
Hey Ysabel,
Yes, I agree! May be I did not read all of the comments, sorry party hat
It takes strength to be compassionate. Not everyone is able to absorb other's problems and not everyone can put their own problems to one side to listen to another.

Compassionate people are some of the strongest people out there.
Trackwave
It is indeedthumbs up
Count me inteddybear wine
Yes you can be compassionate and strong both. beer
Strength might be compassionate but I don't think ambition is. I do not believe that sacrifice helps those seek power unless you're playing an incredibly long game like Jesus. Nailed to a cross by the cops and soldiers, landlords etc all of those who sought power in the here and now.
Trying to do the right thing will kill you. Too much love will kill you.

And at the low end it will leave you unpromoted or in poverty and maybe disabled, too.
Hey Chestney
Thank you for taking time to read my old blog
This remind me of that moment when I really lost control of my emotion that lead me realizing that I am over acting ????????wine cheers teddybear
Hey bcbenny wave
That makes the two of uscheers wine
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