Fear of the Known
Having responded to another blog and not getting a response to how people fear the" known " and said blog now closed ,I'm putting it out there for discussion.For example there are many children in abusive situations be it physical or s*xual. How do you suppose a child can allay it's fears and protect itself by positive thoughts which has been suggested ? Are they not fearful of the known?
I was personally attacked one night and frankly have never forgotten the fear that was instilled in me at the time. I still carry this with me when in certain situations, and surely that's normal as a protective measure.
Many women and even men are in relationships that are for them untenable. but , due to circumstances of finance or concerns over children ,are unable to walk away. Are they then not fearful of the known?
Developing cancer ,especially if it's metastatic, or any other debilitating illness and disease may not be removed just through thought transference and positivity, or even diet change. That's just wishful thinking surely and are they then not fearful of the known?
I know people who have beaten the big C but I also know people who are facing death as I type, even though they fought a long hard battle and pushed their own boundaries.
Yes we can stay positive about how we deal with any ongoing situation in our lives but it's not always a cure for what ails us. Hope is a wonderful factor but despair is quite another matter.
Please no discussions about Covid and control..
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Thank you so much for your heartfelt message and for caring enough to share your past on an extremely difficult and emotional subject.
These were my thoughts when writing the blog re how people deal with "known" fears and there are many who have had, and are still dealing with difficult situations in their lives.
Telling people to be strong and think positive when one's life has been that of perpetual fear is almost like a condescending pat on the head and a "There there, dear you'll be ok."
I can't begin to understand the trauma that you experienced and are probably still having to deal with as you go through life. Having the courage to share your story, as you have probably done before, goes some way towards healing ,but never having experienced an abusive childhood only one of parental love it's hard for me to even begin to imagine your childhood.
Once again many thanks for your courage and fortitude.
Sometimes it pays to walk. Unfortunately for some it's not always possible.
I do get through days, I am happy, I can laugh, enjoy music and the company of people.
I don't hate men, I am not a loner, I enjoy a good laugh.
I was half way through writing this and thought I should stop, but something made me go on.
I hope if anyone is reading this, they will know there is nothing wrong with them for having bad
days, for days when they don't feel positive, for choosing to be survivors and warriors rather than
victims. It is a long path and ironically it leaves one naive. I go weeks or months now without
thinking about anything to do with the subject. Those who have not dared face the fear and have stayed quiet are the ones I worry about.
I think if anything there should be more books and blogs on strength, on pulling on our own strength and will to be well and happy rather than ignoring reality and taking refuge in various ways of thinking that only act as sunglasses.
I take it back. Maybe you're cool, afterall.
What will tomorrow bring?
What if I die?
What if I don't have money?
That was my reason for opening this blog in response to the other blog.
It's reasonable to have fears of what might or might not happen in one's life, but a known fear is so much harder to deal with don't you think.
I just want to say thanks again for a platform that I perhaps should not have used.
Everything Is aid [even if not written very well ] and from the heart was true and the more
horrible aspects left out.
At 70, I am moving on although the PTSD flashback still come back.
Thanks for your kindness and also to those who did express an understanding and empathy like
Jac and yourself and others and those who wrote on my private mail .
I think being 70 two weeks ago, it is not the best place for me to be and I have probably disclosed
more information than I should have on a blog.
so I will say good bye, I hope it helped some people, and was perhaps a little eye opener to those who think we are all pathetic victims but most importantly for your blog, that Fear is a very natural ongoing scenario in man y life situations.
Best of luck Tiger_Moth.
GG
I just want to say thanks again for a platform that I perhaps should not have used.
Everything Is aid [even if not written very well ] and from the heart was true and the more
horrible aspects left out.
At 70, I am moving on although the PTSD flashback still come back.
Thanks for your kindness and also to those who did express an understanding and empathy like
Jac and yourself and others and those who wrote on my private mail .
I think being 70 two weeks ago, it is not the best place for me to be and I have probably disclosed
more information than I should have on a blog.
so I will say good bye, I hope it helped some people, and was perhaps a little eye opener to those who think we are all pathetic victims but most importantly for your blog, that Fear is a very natural ongoing scenario in man y life situations.
Best of luck Tiger_Moth.
GG
It's good to know that a blog can be an opener for someone to share their experiences and put things into perspective as to what" known fear" actually does mean to people who have or ,as I said , are still experiencing it.
We cannot randomly dismiss such fears by thought process. Some people never get over their past ,even with help. It's a stigma that can stay a lifetime and ,although can be controlled to a certain degree, it never truly leaves the human mind completely unfortunately.
Well done you for having the courage of your convictions and sharing your known fear. Stay safe and hope to see you again soon.
R.E.M had the 'it's the end of the world as we know it and I feel fine - line
meaning an unknown do not at all have to be a problem, rather an opportunity.
The known problems are more than enough for me also, so any unknown: bring it on!
Can't beat the real thing lol.
Death is the worst one (refuse to call that an unknown) but a little glimmer of hope is even there.
If you meet Jesus on the other side bow to him, don't raise your fist into his face...
He made you.