Afghanistan failure in 1842 - Deja Vue

I am rereading the diary of one of in my opinion the best female role models. Lady Sale's "Journal of the Disaster" Afghanistan in 1842.

She kept a diary before during and after the fall of the puppet government England had set up in Afghanistan. Amazingly when she finally offered herself up to the insurgent warlord in return for his sparing the remaining women and children of the English colony he not only allowed her to continue to keep a diary, but also allowed extracts of it to be mailed (somehow) to her husband in England who forwarded it to English newspapers whose readers read every word. So much of it could be ripped from today's headlines.
That the withdrawal of the English soldiers from Afghanistan was not a concern, the reassurances to the (doomed) European populace of Kabul that the government has the rebellion well in hand. The Afghan government has the rebels on the run and any day now the last of them will be caught, that the Afghan military trained by the English is perfectly capable of dealing with the insurgency and English soldiers can be withdrawn. Her recounting of trusted supportive Afghan soldiers suddenly shooting or stabbing English soldiers they patrolled with in the back has such an air of familiarity. Her diary goes on one day from discussing her current and planned vegetable garden, a comparison of local vegetables and fruits to those of England, her plans to live with her husband (an English Officer withdrawn to Jalamabad and then to England) when he gets out of the service, to the very next day hordes of insurgents invading Kabul and murdering her friends and children on the street with fighting everywhere in the city and houses burning, Her words that evening as she recounts the shattered promises of the English Lords in Parliament and the assurances of the British envoy to the Shah about how Kabul is safe and any thought of leaving Afghanistan is silly they just seethe with anger. Much of her day was spent with her daughter trying to staunch the blood flow of the many stab wounds her son in law had received whtn visiting the Shah's palace to find out what was going on and also to keep him from choking to death on his own blood.
I wish Biden had been required to read her journal. It is a little graphic and she is pretty pragmatic and matter of fact in her writing after watching for several days from the walls of the English cantonment as friends and families of friends die fighting or fleeing. Every single mistake England made in 1842 is both laid out in her journal, but also repeated by President Biden.
The siege of the British fort in Kabul continues for weeks before a military convoy sets out on foot with all 16,000 Europeans from Kabul. Only 1 made it to Jalamabad everyone else killed or enslaved (including Lady Sales) en route. Ultimately her husband participates in a military return and rescues her from the pre-Taliban insurgent who has been keeping her and some other English women. Upon her return to England she verifies the accounts published in the English newsletters are indeed her letters and not those of some scrub women hired to fake letters from her for her husband to give to anti government media persons. Upon his death in continued fighting in Afghanistan the Parliament gives her a pension for life and a free apartment near Hyde Park. She also publishes the entirety of the journal which severely chastises the English military for ineptitude in how the withdrawal was handled and the abandonment of the murdered English women and children and England's outnumbered abandoned soldiers in the different provinces with no ammunition supplies of stockpiles of food nor plans to reinforce them before their garrisons fell. That is the book I am reading.
Later after some thus accused accuse her of being of low virtue because she traded herself to save the lives of the other women and their children she left England and died of a fever years later in Africa,