Cry me a river...

I can't help but think "Cry me a river" when I hear someone say that they just got out of a relationship and they are afraid of being hurt. Granted, I have said that myself two years ago after my divorce. I'm in a different place now so it's easy to say.

I have come to a different place in life where I am starting to understand that there is always going to be something. Sometimes, we can get stuck in a rut worrying about the hurt that we experienced and and scared of starting over since it will only lead to more hurt.

If anything, we should remember that if we don't ever risk anything we won't gain anything. We can look at what happened as a lesson learned. I have learned not to blame the other person for the breakup/divorce exclusively. I was there too- the hardest question is to ask ourselves- what did I do to contribute to the end of the relationship? If the other person was mostly at fault- emotional/physical abuse, controlling, jealousy, drugs, lying, cheating, etc. Then, we have to look at ourselves and ask why did I pick this person? Is this a pattern?

To answer those questions are difficult but very necessary. We need to get quiet, slow down and take a hard look inside ourselves. Most of us (including yours truly) fail to do so and end up with the same person in a different skin. I am learning to take it easy and slow. When I do, I can see things more clearly and not rush to "get over" the hurt caused by the last relationship. It's a tough process at times but it's worth it.
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Dear ladybug..I like you very much. Nice writing here. You are so well balanced and cool. Love your puppy.
Bravo Ladybugg! The only way to find a new someone who is not a duplication of the last someone is this process of which you write. All of life is a mirror and every mirror is a gift. They are showing us what we want to heal within ourselves.

Fantastic Blog!!!
Hello Mr. Camel and Ms. Venus- I appreciate the complimentary remarks! Always good to see you both.

Camel- my puppy's name is Jessie- I will tell her hello from you lol
rolling on the floor laughing
Many camels in my herd are offering a free ride to Jessie to any park she goes for recreation, but she is very cute and few of my male… single... camels could have wrong intentions for her. If you are willing to take the risk, please inform.
Many camels in my herd are offering a free ride to Jessie to any park she goes for recreation, but she is very cute and few of my male… single... camels could have wrong intentions for her. If you are willing to take the risk, please inform.


Dearest friend Camel,

First let me say doh followed by rolling on the floor laughing
I must say I needed that! LOL
Jessie has considered your camel's generous offer. She is always open to meeting new friends be they two or four-legged. She has weighed the possible risks involved and has decided to bring along her friends- Spike the bulldog, Tom the cat and Mr. Smith and Mr. Wesson. She is very well acquainted with Mr. Smith and Mr. Wesson. Jessie is quite the marksman and if any camel should show signs of unseemly behavior Jessie can handle herself quite well. Her friends Spike and Tom will be packing heat as well. I think it will be quite the adventure. Jessie likes to put on her pink tutu and go jogging every morning at 5 am at the dog park. She only asks that the camels also wear pink tutus and that they behave themselves. I am sure that it will be quite the spectacle! See you there!

peace
My camels have suddenly revoked their offer without giving any reason! They just say they cannot go with sister Jessie because they don’t have pink tutus in their wardrobe.
My camels have suddenly revoked their offer without giving any reason! They just say they cannot go with sister Jessie because they don’t have pink tutus in their wardrobe.


Mr. Camel if you're not making me think too hard then you're making me laugh too hard! Thank you for that!

P.S.
laugh rolling on the floor laughing hug
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