Excuse Me

I have had quite a few messages since I made a profile here. But what fascinated me is that when I reject a person politely, some respect it, and some not so much.

Just now, i got a “f*#k you a$$h*£€” for telling him that there is quite a big age difference between us. I’ve also been called a “b!+€#” and a gold digger just because I think we want different things.

Men risk rejection for initiating contact, so i try to be polite in letting them down. So I guess just not replying would be best?

Whatever!

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If they're persistently rude - Block 'em so they can no longer send you mail.
Simple, no? ... dunno

cowboy
I block them right away. I just don’t reply anymore once they start being rude. I have better things to do, besides just because i explained something, doesn’t mean that he will change his mind, so why waste effort? dunno

Hello Miclee wave
Hi Todok wave

Yeah, i have met some who are being gentlemen about it. Accept and walk away. I had been in a relationship with someone 17 years older than me. He was my first boyfriend. I loved him but the difference in our preferences are way too big to ignore in the long run. So I have a good reason not to want that again, don’t i?
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Some can be VERY Convincing.
One of 'em had me going for Weeks.

She claimed to be retired US Air Force.
I mentioned a Navy/Coast Guard marching song that included the line, "...Air Force Wings are made of lead." ... Referring to the pewter metallic Air Force pilot/aircrew insignia.

She tripped herself up saying USAF Wings are Gold ... foot in mouth

cowboy
When I get those I laugh and congratulate myself on dodging the bullet once again.
It is a self-inflated Ego..........name-calling is SO immature and many ARE in that state especially with the 'self-centered' programing being doused upon us constantly - judgement, division, us vs them, you versus me, "I'm right and you're wrong" "We're right and they're wrong, etc. . Being Polite saying "Thank you, no" is a very responsible action to take and I Honor you for that. Is it not better to be 'shown' what kind of person they are BEFORE you meet?
Yea, not replying is best Chelli, a pity it has to be like that.

Thanks for trying, but you can now let the politeness go.

handshake
Back in my days, a woman would have been delighted to have attracted the attentions of a man. Nowadays, women train in rejection techniques. What an age we live in.

mumbling
You say in your profile you are looking for adventure. Maybe also specify in your profile that you are only interested in men your own age. Nobody likes to be told they are too old to be an adventure.

But then who reads profiles anyway.
Well, for one, I do read profiles, love. Just sayin.
Block Button Do Exist though..
I Suppose that many women prefer the shortcut of not replying.. Coz Easy.....
It happened to me to that a lot of women didn't reply and most certainly i sent the first message and it was Polite..

Oh Well Its Just Human Kind That's Made This Way..
wine
In My Opinion ...

Common Sense And Good Manners Have Been Forgotten By Most Now Days Human Kind.....

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"So I guess just not replying would be best?"

That's what most people end up doing, I think. It's generally known that no reply means NO. If there is no attraction in the first place, nagging won't work.
Agreed...
If you don't want to know someone the 'No response' to their message is the typical method. They usually go away after that.
If they continue, you have the option to block them.
Yep taking the easy way out...
Which is what now days humans Prefer...
wine
Since i was young my grandma always told me Good Manners Always Apply No Matter What...
A Simple Thank You If U Receive A Compliment Is In the Facts Good Manner...

Though I Suppose I'm Too Much Old School?
Perhaps...
wine
-campero

Buonasera. Lieto di conoscerla. Senti un po, da quando sei su di qua? Funziona questo coso? Cioe, si rimorchia di qua?
@ MissChelli ,
I think it is all the same, but reply is not compolsary, so it is simpler if you do not reply them.
Also you can delete unpleasant messages. angel
I'm sure I dodged bullets too. I guess I have a streak in me that's a "people pleaser"? Because I have this urge to explain myself a lot. Trying to mend that now, as not everyone will understand and accept your explanation. hmmm blah blah

Hi wave
I'm sure I dodged bullets too. I guess I have a streak in me that's a "people pleaser"? Because I have this urge to explain myself a lot. Trying to mend that now, as not everyone will understand and accept your explanation. hmmm :blah blah:

Hi wave
Oh no. the polite society won't appreciate it. there are those who prefer women who are more mild mannered. I usually don't care, but where I came from, I am always reminded to care. doh
I started out trying to be polite, you know, saying no nicely. It never worked once.
So now I have to open the message to block them and once in a while I'll get a very nice thought out email and I respond. But most I don't.
Back in the day a man's attention is expressed with respect and dignity. And don't get me wrong, I get flattered with the attention I get, especially the genuine ones. However, I don't appreciate to be called names if I deign to say "NO" to anyone. indeed what an age we live in.
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Dipende?
Da Quanto Sei Fortunato?
Dipende Da Cosa Cerchi?
Dipende Da Che Persone Contatti?

La maggior parte non ti caga proprio...
Dopotutto siam solo esseri umani quindi non si puo pretendere piu di tanto....

Un Consiglio Spassionato?

Non Ci sprecare pi di tanto il tempo....E vatti a cercare na persona in carne ed ossa almeno sei sicuro che la puoi guardare negli occhi...

Fancy Red Wine?
wine

cheers cheers cheers cheers

P.S. Molte Qua Se La Tirano E Di Brutto...Almeno Per Quello Che Io Abbia Visto...
wine
E se proprio sei intenzionato a cercare qualcosa qua?
Be' cerca in Malta... almeno sei sicuro che una volta la vedi in favvia...

cheers cheers cheers
I like reading someone's profile before I reply to see at surface value if there might be some similarities we can start talking about. And in my profile the age of people I am interested in is specified. Maybe they don't read, and just look at pictures. And no matter what I put on the profile statements, it will always be subjected to interpretations of the rreaders, so, I cannot control that really. wine
You'd be surprised at how many people just cannot take a hint on "no reply means no"
But I digress, I can't control them on how they were raised. uncertain
agreed! thumbs up thumbs up
Agreed. wine thumbs up
-campero

Yep, you're right. Then again, I am not really looking for anything or anyone really. Popped in just to have a wee word on here. Will soon be gone.

Anyhow, was just trying to practice a tad my italian cause it's getting real rusty. You have a good night, pal.

Cheerio beer
If i were u i wouldn't be sooooo worried about ur italian....

Fairly certain i'll forget it after 2 years i left italy,and obvious NEVER COME BACK...
Or at least come back just for holidays and escape after 1 week coz is more than enough...

cheers cheers cheers cheers
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What would u expect from now days Human Kind?
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I do not expect much specially on dating sites...
Is somehow used as an excuse to hide what one person actually is....

I suppose old school folks now days are very hard to find...
wine
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