Our experience(s) in dating here at CS or anywhere

Maybe some of us on here have anything to share about our journey in finding the "one".

Considering all the fake profiles, scammers they are called, what truly is our chances of finding him/her on this site? Or anywhere for that matter.

I have met and found whom I thought was the one 9 years ago here. Although our distance was more than 7,000 miles apart we didn't get discouraged because what we felt from the first skype was so strong and wonderful that we didn't think of any hurdles we had to face.
Anyways I went to his place about three times and he came to my place about two times. To cut the story short, for me, it was the most interesting, adventurous and wonderful part of my life.

I read somewhere that the difficulty of meeting a real partner here isn't as easy as meeting them in family gatherings, church or the conventional and normal introduction before the web. What's with all of those mentally crazy, drug addicts, or simply players that are not who they claim they are. Married pretending to be single, and more discouraging characters which by the time you find out, has already caused you a lot of emotional roller coaster.

Well for me, I am no longer looking. I'm way past that. But meeting good friends both male or female, to me is a plus.

What about you? Please feel free to share your stories if you want. Maybe we can all learn from it.

Note: I know about six couples who have met here, still married and happy. A couple from NZ and India, From Northern Thailand and England (my best friends, he passed away , blessed his soul). From Philippines and NZ, From NY and England, From France and CH, and also our very own Mimi from Malaysia now happily living in Nebraska. The first three couples I met them 8 years ago still very happily married.

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Your words Ms Jones ....
"Well for me, I am no longer looking. I'm way past that"
Would it be a silly question if I asked you why?

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I have been filled with so much love from the past Ms. Witch. I think I have had enough. I'm so comfortable with my life being single and doing anything I want when I want and only in my own terms.
Relationship is a very complicated venture Ms. Witch and sadly sometimes our desire for a very simple existence is our priorities. At least for me. I'm at my age where I can say and do whatever I fancy without any consideration for others. I am not saying I would wish for others to live like I do but there's truly a blessed feeling of being independent. Having said that, we never truly can say our decisions are encrypted in a stone. teddybear
Thanks for asking Ms. Witch. Now I have a question for you. Have you had any encounter yet? Or somewhat close to possibilities?bouquet
Celtic....... My first love and infatuation was with an Irish girl. I think it was County Down where she came from. I was in civil service at the time. She was in same department. I know that I could never recreate those feelings and simple experiences I had. I always made fun of her accent at the time.
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What about on here Crown, have you met anyone? Ir you're here only for other reasons other than dating?wave
Thanks for the reply Ms Jones wine
you tell it in a good way as in, its alright to end up alone, which for many it is and you seem happy with that also and good for you but I find something rather sad about it all.

You have been filled with so much love yet you're happy not to end up with it .....
like I said, I think that's sad but that's just me.

You're not at the end of your line yet Ms Jones, so who knows who's around the corner worth bumping into smitten
LJ..... Of course I'm here and open to suggestions. Trouble is I desire women who are too far away and they usually are not genuine. I've searched the country for Stepford, but can't find the place.
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So a wee Irish cailin stole your heart then Crowns .....
nothing more memorable than ones first love hug
Happiness and sadness are temporary state Ms. Witch. To me, I find so much happiness and fulfillment with my children and grandchildren. So much joys and pleasant experiences in my travels. Of course covid stopped that but I am booked again.

Then my time of learning from being on here instead of simply reading books, watching television shows and once in a while trip to the casino. I feel good at where I am. I have many friends and I am very busy.
Celtic...... This Irish girl called Marie, bought me a ticket to see the Rolling Stones live. They appeared on stage, but their music was drowned by the screaming girls. But at least I saw them.
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Encounters yes but nothing ever became anything special ....
did meet one chap last year and we had the makings smitten
unfortunately life got in the way so now I'll never know.
Two problems I spotted these Crown. The first is the distance. You have to truly overcome that because this is an international dating site and once you accept friendships or communicating for that goal of romantically going to get involved, then distance is factored in.

The Stepford wife, you've got to close that channel in your mind and heart. In today's world, there's no such thing as a subservient woman. No way you'd ever find that.

You have to tweak your requirements Crown. Live with the now. My advise. wave
LJ....... You mean Stepford doesn't exist? Why didn't someone tell me? There must be subservient women somewhere? Would you also check Google for that please?
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And who may I ask are the rolling stones?
they must of been a bit before my time roll eyes
obviously they were useless if they had so many girls screaming at them.

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Celtic..... Sorry I forgot, you were probably a Bay City Rollers fan and saved your screaming for them.
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Always consider that all relationships long distance or just around the corner have served us for our personal growth. As many who are looking for another chance or those who take pride they stopped looking, one thing to consider this site with all its noble intentions to bring people together who would not meet under ordinary local geographic circumstances or areas. It has brought some people together and it has broken people apart.

Overall, my experiences on this site in spite of the contradictions of people here who claim they want a friend but, do not want to go out of their way for one I met only one who knows me better than myself and she is quite popular here.

She is quite unique and as much as sometimes I may deny or dispute her wisdom often times the old idea comes to mind "Don't shoot the messenger"

Aside from the misfits that probably make up 80% of the population here, it's the 20% that make it all worthwhile.

Overall, it's best to set expectations low enough to avoid disappointment. In anyone's lifetime if you meet the "one" you will mostly only recognize that "one" after they have left you. Or you pushed them away.
Crown in the late 70s, I had the privilege or I'd say chance experience of attending concerts that were dirt cheap in Hyde Park. My cousin who's a bit of a musician informed me that it used to be all free from the late 69s up until the mid seventies. When I was there in the late 70s it was so cheap and you can buy the tapes after the concert. I am not much into concerts but my cousin took me there to accompany her.
Good for you Ms Jones and long may it continue teddybear
my view is not a personal one on you just onne in general on love and relationships ... the way I see it, if anythings worth having, its worth keeping as well.
Ms. Witch, they're one of the famous groups if musicians much like the Beatles. Mick Jagger is one of the member and lead singer, vocalist.
Oh my but how I loved those city rollers love smitten

I know Ms Jones hug
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Ok my bad. I can direct you to the remotest places in the South East. Particularly Philippines and perhaps Nepal and Mongolia. But use due diligence in your search. There's a family, I heard from my friend, who's tribe still practice the arrange marriage system. No love involved at first. Just pre arrangement style. You kind of like purchase a bride. Now it's not easy and you need a guide (maybe me), to seek her?

Prepare a boatload of money because the system starts with the elders of the tribe making all the requirements. You pay money to the parents, grandparents, buy her a land and house and dowry is what they call. Ok we can communicate about this process more in private, although if anyone is interested, I can pretty much fill on here. My sister, older one was married in this system. I opted not to with my parents permission.
Well Ninurta, I'm happy to hear your story.

When you say popular, I get that she's with us on the blog? Ok, you don't need to answer that Ninurta. I'm glad that you have something to share. Good luck and yes, the 20 percent of those that are real on here simply makes it worthwhile. I feel the same wave
Ok Ms. Witch, noted. Carry on. But the one you have had an encounter on here, how is it progressing? I know you said something about worth keeping?
Or you pushed them away.....Nah Ninu, I don't buy that talk to hand
I think alot of people use that line as an excuse for giving up and not trying hard enough to hold onto and keep someone they care for or love.
Happiness and suffering are temporary states...Right!

Live with the truth and move on. Rose!

Nice to see sister!!
I think it's more like a tool for fear of learning more about them and how you can interact without being hurt or hurt them?
I think Ms Jones, you may of misunderstood me a bit.....
because off lock downs we never met, but lets say, our phones were busy alot... when the time came to meet something happened and that was the end of that .... the shortest love story ever told sad
oh my gosh, my sister, yes I completely forgot about you and my dearly loved late friend Ron.
I am so happy to see you my sister and participating here. Please share your wonderful story. Please?
My apologies Ms. Witch. Wrll that is still a good story Ms. Witch. I wish you'd have had a chance to meet. But there's that memories, I'm sure you keep in your heart.
My memories with my Greek Australian love was so filled with extraordinary adventure that I'd take them with me to my grave. He met all my children and grandchildren as I met all his wonderful family. Oh did I love those Greek foods and miss his sense of humor. So intellectual, humble and wrote the best poetry I've ever read.
Lindsay was my first love, She was in my class
I would have loved to take her out, But I was too shy to ask
The fullness of my feeling, Was never made clear
But I send her my love, And a bang on the ear

Nora was my girl, When I first was in a group
I can still see her to this day, Stirring chicken soup
Now she's living in Australia, Working for an auctioneer
But I send her my love, And a bang on the ear

Deborah broke my heart, And I the willing fool
I fell for her one summer, On the road to Liverpool
I thought it was forever, But it was over within the year (oh dear)
But I send her my love, And a bang on the ear

The home I made with Bella, Became a house of pain
We weathered it together, Bound by a ball and chain
It started up in Fife, It ended up in tears
But I send her my love, And a bang on the ear

Krista was a rover, From Canada she hailed
We crossed swords in San Francisco, We both lived to tell the tale
I don't know now where she is, Oh, but if I had her here
I'd give her my love, And a bang on the ear

So my woman of the hearth fire, Harbor of my soul
I watch you lightly sleeping, I sense the dream that does unfold...like gold
You to me are treasure, You to me are dear
So I'll give you my love, And a bang on the ear

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And a Bang on the Ear (Waterboys)

Can't you give him a surprise call now and ask him over?
Covid is finito. heart1
Grand thanks. I just finished listening with the music n
My that's cool.wave
Yes indeed, my thoughts, too Ms. Witch. bouquet
Or you pushed them away.....Nah Ninu, I don't buy that talk to hand
I think alot of people use that line as an excuse for giving up and not trying hard enough to hold onto and keep someone they care for or love.

Witchy often times love is blind and those who love us the most are generally hardest on us the most. They see within us what we don't see in ourselves. And if you believe in God or whatever always consider the universe never gives us what we want but, it does gives us what we need.

We may wonder or question our love interests why they come into our lives and the love lesson and experience we are to have. IMO it's the only way for whoever created us and our understanding of self as many are our mirrors.

Often times we don't want to see that reflection and we push them away. If we keep getting the same mirrors then it's suggesting we must change our ways.
Pretty sure she went to make the call. thumbs up jackolantern
A very detailed and deep self introspection there Ninurta. If anything it's what we learn from those experiences that matters. It does to me. wave
I hope so, too Grand. I heard about some of your experiences, too Grand. They were quite an adventure, too wasn't it?

If you were to do it again, is there anything you learned from the past that might guide you? Or simply just go with the flow?wave
Just a comment to Ninurta first:

I sometimes have felt in the 'unlucky again but it was close' category so many times I almost started to
wonder of God is sabotaging my happiness here on earth to make me follow him instead, which could make more sense at the end of the day. Something along those lines you had in mind?
Paulus (Paul) said it was best to dedicate this life to serving God, but if you can't live without a wife then go get one. That's how I read him. I suppose I'm in the second group, the romance hungry ones. dunno
He went to make a call too, to the one who got away. purple heart

Ehmmm..... learned? Maybe best to look closer to home first,
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