First date meal...paying half/going dutch with a woman

I have discussed...this subject before...but it was a while agowow

As some women have stated...it's not the 1950s anymore...women have their own income and property...so why do so many women...still want the man to pay for the mealconfused

a novel idea...would be a woman offering to foot the whole bill for the meal..like so many men have done...throughout history..never complaining...just opening their wallets up...paying the bill and leaving a tip toowow

What i did with my exe...she paid and the nxt time i paid...fair is fairgrin

Feel free to share your views...on this most interesting of subjects...that effects so many of uswow
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You sound a mean guy to suggest a woman should pay anything. The man should always pay unless he's not a real man. Which are you?
I like dutch but rather swap one trade for another. I can be satisfied in the cooking area.
are you living in the 1950s?
it could a empowering experience...for a woman to open her purse and treat her date to a mealwow
I'm all man...is what women tell meflex
My principle Lee, whoever invites pays. Period. If I invite I take the responsibility that it's my treat.
LC.....
Your fooling yourself to call yourself a man. No woman admires a man who suggests she should pay anything. That maybe a Welsh approach, but not in England. We are gentlemen here.
Invite me, jones. I'd have a few places in mind.
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T c ....... They wouldn't complain, but they would think less of a man for suggesting that the woman should pay anything. That's the right practice and I have no other comment to make, as I know I am right. Stay mean if you want, if it makes you happy.
I will, I will hold you to it. I will invite you.
Same for me!thumbs up
Same mind my dear.

was she after a free mealconfused
Rude.
The way it works here is the guy pays for the meal and later he gets invited in for a "cup of coffee".
If you don't pay the bill you don't get "coffee". Simple.
If you haven't been getting "coffee" that's where you've been going wrong. professor laugh
The way I see it...if a woman is attracted to a man...paying half on a meal...won't change that...you will still get invited in for the coffee and maybe moregrin
first date venue ideaswow how about a cafegrin
if she ordered cheese on toast and a pot of tea...i would open my wallet and nxt time it would be her turngrin
I would like to try in and out burger. No joint in this area.
No, if you split the bill then you're even, she owes you nothing. She would then be put in an awkward situation, like she would be throwing herself at you. Just pay the bill and take your chances. A woman never paid any bill with me, not even when I was married and nothing was expected or refused.
Maybe you've been with the wrong women? dunno

Or...maybe she knew you were loaded? dunno
the truth be told...my exe treated me to a meal...before we were dating and once we started dating...we would take it in turns to pay the meal billwow
it's not about a woman being attracted to a mans wallet..but it is about a woman being attracted to a man...regardless of who pays for the mealwow
Totally agree with you LJ...thumbs up wine
i must agreethumbs up grin
Maybe from your point of view. Which as you are aware is not a universal view.
So true...thumbs up wine
Yep, like the man said at the end..."You invite a woman out on a date? Be a gentleman and pay for it". thumbs up wine
this guy has other ideaslaugh
Even if you don't split the bill, she still doesn't OWE you anythingscold
Here is a variante: when the bill comes you say Ok, let's split the bill.
Then you rip it in two and after her surprise you say "just kidding, I'll take this one"
(garcon... ma carte s'il vous plait) wine
With equality, for which very few women fought yet all women have to now bear the consequences, comes loss of privilege. If I was on a sinking titanic, I'd be punching women right, left, and centre to get to a lifeboat. It's how women wannit it right?

dunno
He is super cheap! And ungentlemanly! If you weren't inviting her on a date, then you should have made that clear up front! How pathetic!!!roll eyesscold
To use some of my local vernacular..."Steups! Try dat an' see wha' goin' happen to yuh!laugh
That's why I wanted you to reply.
It's impossible to put into words that which cannot be explained, it was just a given in my day the guy would pay. I would rather be broke than stingy and as I said nothing was expected. There was never "coffee" on the first date, that would be frowned on. We were civilized gentlemen, before womens lib, then it got confusing.
I agree that women should offer to pay for/treat their date to an outing/meal/etc, sometimes. However, I don't think that they should offer to split the bill; taking turns inviting each other out, and paying for the 'outing' is how to express equality in an appropriate way.teddybear
It may have gotten a bit confusing, but that shouldn't stop you from being a gentleman. Real women will always appreciate that.wink thumbs up wine
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