Preferential treatment?.........Hmmmn.

About a month ago, after observing that some men’s profiles were either devoid of a personal pic or featured a pic of an animal (and in one case, a drawing of a cat with a rose), I decided that it would be all right for me to do the same. So, I posted a pic of Sweetie Pie as my primary photo.

Almost immediately, the pic was removed, and I was informed that I could not use it as my primary photo. I was very disappointed and thought of querying that policy, because other CS members were being allowed to do otherwise.

Why was I being denied the same opportunity? Was it because I was (and still am) relatively new on here, and there’s some sort of ‘probationary’ period to complete before I could do so? Was it because they have a policy that ‘men’s faces don’t really need to be seen, but women’s do’? Was it because the ‘mods’ only do random checks and just happened to be checking when I put up Sweetie’s photo? Was it because…………….?
I couldn’t think of anything else that was plausible.

Then, earlier today Avocet’s profile pic (featuring 2 dogs, I think) made Galrads ask how he was able to ‘get away’ with that, and I wondered about the mystery behind it all.

Is this a case of preferential treatment, or a faux pas that was missed by the CS ‘powers that be’? hmmm dunno confused
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Why ask why...
I've noticed irregular 'permission' on some primary profile photos and not know how or why they were allowed. Once, I uploaded a small image if Shrek that was quickly deleted. The same with Jabba the Hut. I thought the resemblance was the same... not exact, but similar.
"I thought the resemblance was the same... not exact, but similar." laugh

Wow...and you've been on here for years, not so? Hmmmn...the mystery goes deeper...
I had a main profile pic..It was Xmas day & I had my tongue sticking out in fun..The mods cropped off my bloody tongue..laugh

I had my age set at 127 because young kids were getting in my mail box..Mods told me I can't have that age even though they provide that age & I had that age for a long time..I keep creeping my age up slowly because the young kids get in my mail box..I don't want young kids in my mail box
I thought there is a filter by age range. Yes?
That way, people outside of the range specified cannot send messages to you.
That would be perfect. Unfortunately that filter, if it ever worked before, is not functioning.sad
This page:

Scroll down half way and You will see the filter:
Allow Mail from Ages _____ to _____

Are you saying it doesn't work?
Didi7
I have a few writing to me on a regular basis, they all have photos.
The others come and go and I noticed recently very few men have photos [as you rightly said ]
I also have been receiving profiles with cute pics of fluffy dogs and Spaniels. I put up my pet Cat once and I was told I had to take it down.
So ~ Could there be a law for men and a law from women ?
Thanks for bringing that up.
I always think that a faceless man writing to a woman who has put up her photo is not being fair.
It is not an equal playing field.

When you see a lovely young pup or loveable fluffly dog it is a con, and not an honest way of contributing
one said to me the other day he would like to take me to bed.
I just blocked, Still he is probably still telling half the site he wants to do same with them. scold

Which begs another question Didi7. If I did ask a man to bed, and he reported me , would I bel kicked off
the site. Men definitely are not. dancing dog
I'm not sure if there is but I do see you have provided a link

My phone is old when I first joined I could never satisfy the mods with pics of myself because they felt my pics were too dark..I was always in trouble I'm either too dark or as they are now I'm too bloody bright..Mods were always on my case..One time they deleted all my pics of me I wasn't allowed to have pics of me on my profile for 2 weeks

What pissed me off was people getting away with anything but themselves as their main picture..People hiding behind bloody flowers & so on

I do believe people report our pictures
Thanks for this Chat. I'll check it out soon.thumbs up
I always think that a faceless man writing to a woman who has put up her photo is not being fair. It is not an equal playing field.

Which begs another question Didi7. If I did ask a man to bed, and he reported me , would I bel kicked off the site. Men definitely are not.GG my girl, you are so right! It seems to me to be an un-equal playing field on here....blues mumbling scold
GG my girl, you are so right! It seems to me to be an un-equal playing field on here....blues mumbling scold
Well I did...and also noticed that some of the other settings (notifications), may not be working (for me). For example, I am only notified for Email, but not for responses to my posts on Blogs, Forums, etc.
Hence my topic. Seems like "preferential treatment" may indeed be the reason, even though I don't know 'why'.mumbling dunno
Look through the list of women, there are plenty nonconforming photos. Including.
A dog in a fridge.
A group of kittens.
A monkey.
One wearing a full face motorcycle helmet.
Some too far away.
Some with their back to the camera.
A couple with the hat pulled over the face.
Plenty scenery and flowers.
A couple photos of the cs blank.
Etc.

It may have been because you're visible on the blogs.
"It may have been because you're visible on the blogs." Nope...don't think so because there are other persons "visible on the blogs" but don't have that problem.sigh mumbling
Still haven't figured out this mystery....hmmm
So you don't want anyone in your box, then, Merc? (Mailbox)...dunno
Yes, it does NOT work as it shld ... In my case, the block setting for minimum match age will not register if the no. is above "54" ... Been like that for a long time now and have written to the site but problem is still there ... doh
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