She's just a friend......
There's always a fine line here......but where exactly is that line?
I think with generation after generation, that line is getting thinner and thinner as relationships and marriages slowly seem to lose value in today's world. The divorce rate has gotten sky high and has just become the norm if marriage is even a factor at all. 
My opinions on this will probably end up further on the s/hitlist, but with the way this week's been, it just doesn't even matter.....fire away. Anywho......Where was I....yes...that fine line 
....Where do you draw the line? What, in your opinion, is considered cheating?
Do you physically have to catch them in bed with someone else?
What if they go to another man/woman's house alone who they said is a friend of theirs? (but without you)
Or if they flirt with seemingly "harmless" verbal s*xual inuendos with friends of the opposite sex?
Chatting with another man/woman online for hours?
What if they seem to hide their phone from you so you don't see their messages? Are you really being nosey though? Why should they feel the need to hide it in the first place?
In my past experience, those relationships with men that have lots of lady friends never really ended well....either they ended up crossing that "friendship line" a little too closely or the women would get involved in the relationship and put their nose where it shouldn't have been. Every. Time. And of course, it's always said "she's just a friend" ....was she really? Or just a back up plan stashed away for when things started to get a little rough in your own relationship?
I don't know....my parents were married till death did they part, may they rest in peace
....and that was a mighty long time. They never had these problems then. My mom would never go to some male friend's house....and my dad would never go out and grab lunch with some other woman. They wouldn't have phone conversations with an outside friend....Did they have friends of the opposite sex? Sure! Absolutely! ....but, out of respect, they would get together with these friends as a couple. They'd go out with friends all the time.....go to dances, bowling, out to dinner....yes, with friends, often....but, they did it together...as a couple. Their friends respected that line....which was so much clearer then. Some will say, things were different then. Life was different. Well, I say....it sure was! Because then, there was more respect. There was more loyalty. The relationships and marriages were much stronger and held more importance. But was that really so bad? Did it really need changing? ...or has our "new and improved" outlook only deadened the hearts of many and killed off the morality of that once loving bond....
Well.....I guess I'm a little old school on this. I've never adapted to the modernized take on such relationships....and I never will. I live by the roles of the old society within the home and relationships. ...such a dying breed, indeed.
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illustrates it all.
Both 'he' and 'she' are 'just a friend of mine'.
I have a message on my phone, honey, my hands are busy, can you check it for me, please
No privacy lock on my phone
You don't feel comfortable with me talking to so and so? Ok, let's talk about it...if it bothers you then I completely understand. I'm sorry.
You are my priority
With me, you should never have doubts
If I care about someone, how they feel affects my actions
I'm very simple.
illustrates it all.
Both 'he' and 'she' are 'just a friend of mine'.
When in doubt the Good Book always has the answers to your questions....
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But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh. on a woman to lust after her hath committed. adultery with her already in his heart. Matthew 5:27-28
Christians think Jesus was more lenient/tolerant, but I think the opposite.....
Muslims have the right idea....
When in doubt the Good Book always has the answers to your questions....
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But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh. on a woman to lust after her hath committed. adultery with her already in his heart. Matthew 5:27-28
Christians think Jesus was more lenient/tolerant, but I think the opposite.....
Muslims have the right idea.... Burka and can be the rave at the next Halloween party.....multi-use
Though not sure if muslims have the right idea with a burka
an excerpt from her blog
The Great Sin is also known as "the pollution of the blood".
Pollution of the blood comes about in many ways. For example, if a woman has many lovers, each one of them leaves behind traces of his DNA, and that DNA not only compromises her immune system, but may replicate at random in her offspring.
Bear in mind, we didn't know this factoid scientifically until the last twenty years, but we have been told this by ancient historical documents and religious taboos for centuries. How did our distant ancestors know this?
The obvious answer is that they had learned about "pollution of the blood" either because they themselves had become scientifically as savvy as we are now, or because some other more advanced society explained it to them.
In any event, they knew. And they warned us, vehemently, not to pollute the blood.
an excerpt from her blog
The Great Sin is also known as "the pollution of the blood".
Pollution of the blood comes about in many ways. For example, if a woman has many lovers, each one of them leaves behind traces of his DNA, and that DNA not only compromises her immune system, but may replicate at random in her offspring.
Bear in mind, we didn't know this factoid scientifically until the last twenty years, but we have been told this by ancient historical documents and religious taboos for centuries. How did our distant ancestors know this?
The obvious answer is that they had learned about "pollution of the blood" either because they themselves had become scientifically as savvy as we are now, or because some other more advanced society explained it to them.
In any event, they knew. And they warned us, vehemently, not to pollute the blood.
Yet, to consider the human race and its morality that is in question today.
When it comes to loyalty today, people are loyal only of their need of you. Once their needs change so does their loyalty.
Once you can't provide what they came for or see they won't get anything from you predators will eventually leave to seek out new victims.
This new school today is all about taking advantage of the weak and gullible.
Today it's all about the Golden rule those who have the gold make the rules.
Today in a world of entitlement women feel what's between their legs is a commodity to be priced based on what a fool is willing to pay.
Yet, they cry daily for some fool to live up to their unrealistic expectations. Of course the boys may have their unrealistic expectations and over inflated egos, and at the end of the day 80% of the population on dating social sites like this are not shagging anyone.
Overall, many cheat themselves by not using this site or others of the intended purposes.
Instead they use it to seek out vulnerable people who are perceived as angry miserable losers
who are basically undesirable deplorables. Yet, predators looking for a handout will use clever tactics to smooth their way into their laid out trap.
Many may b*tch about the scammers and their clever ways. Yet, to some it's a business and if it wasn't working they wouldn't be doing it.
They make it a career and search through all the blogs and forums and profiles in their search for potential victims.
Because of social media and the way We are being conditioned to believe what the media moguls want us to believe people are in conflict within themselves.
The contradictions to say hey, come to connecting singles or plenty of fish or match or mingle to suggest there are so many places and choices to consider where to find a mate.
30 yrs ago people met face to face through church or bars or social gatherings that forced people to actually engage in person with others.
Today with the internet you just create a fake profile to hide behind with a false idea of yourself and enumerate all the qualities you may want in a partner. Yet, those qualities are everything you as an individual want to become. Or at least have someone show you that you already are those qualities.
People today lost their identity and so they create new ones. This woke identity crap and s*xual identity nonsense where kids think they are more feminine or masculine, could be more a plea that they are just tired of the role they were given.
Or as some would suggest that as new borns age they become self aware rather early that they may have been a different gender in a previous life. Who knows?
Overall, I think people today are divorced of understanding who they are or what they want in life. We are exposed to so much crap these days and social media and politicians advertisers even religion use much psychology to induce what to think and buy and believe.
So, we may look at the relationship stats of people. We trade partners like cars. Dating sites are nothing but, used car dealerships. Only the product are people. We have to do our own marketing to sell an idea about how wonderful we think we are to convince someone to pay attention to us. We never know what's going on under the hood. Or the real motives why people here.
We just place a bit of shiny ideas on our resume and maybe a pretty pic and hope maybe we catch someone off guard.
Does anyone really think that CS cares if anyone hooks up? What they care mostly are the banner ads that make revenue to keep this site going.
Overall, we are here loitering around for the next story, the next new profile, the next new joke, the next new forum or blog of useless information.
Yet, the old saying goes laugh and the world laughs with you and mostly at you. Cry and you cry alone.
Men will not admit their vulnerabilities to women. People are alone because they are separated from their God their connection to the source of life and love.
Nobody believes anymore. Once betrayed that element of trust is lost. Once betrayed people often do not trust in new relationships. Hence, people do not want to start new relationships because they can often assume that any new relationship will be like their past failures.
Yet, to consider the human race and its morality that is in question today.
When it comes to loyalty today, people are loyal only of their need of you. Once their needs change so does their loyalty.
Once you can't provide what they came for or see they won't get anything from you predators will eventually leave to seek out new victims.
This new school today is all about taking advantage of the weak and gullible.
Today it's all about the Golden rule those who have the gold make the rules.
Today in a world of entitlement women feel what's between their legs is a commodity to be priced based on what a fool is willing to pay.
Yet, they cry daily for some fool to live up to their unrealistic expectations. Of course the boys may have their unrealistic expectations and over inflated egos, and at the end of the day 80% of the population on dating social sites like this are not shagging anyone.
Overall, many cheat themselves by not using this site or others of the intended purposes.
Instead they use it to seek out vulnerable people who are perceived as angry miserable losers
who are basically undesirable deplorables. Yet, predators looking for a handout will use clever tactics to smooth their way into their laid out trap.
Many may b*tch about the scammers and their clever ways. Yet, to some it's a business and if it wasn't working they wouldn't be doing it.
They make it a career and search through all the blogs and forums and profiles in their search for potential victims.
Because of social media and the way We are being conditioned to believe what the media moguls want us to believe people are in conflict within themselves.
The contradictions to say hey, come to connecting singles or plenty of fish or match or mingle to suggest there are so many places and choices to consider where to find a mate.
30 yrs ago people met face to face through church or bars or social gatherings that forced people to actually engage in person with others.
Today with the internet you just create a fake profile to hide behind with a false idea of yourself and enumerate all the qualities you may want in a partner. Yet, those qualities are everything you as an individual want to become. Or at least have someone show you that you already are those qualities.
People today lost their identity and so they create new ones. This woke identity crap and s*xual identity nonsense where kids think they are more feminine or masculine, could be more a plea that they are just tired of the role they were given.
Or as some would suggest that as new borns age they become self aware rather early that they may have been a different gender in a previous life. Who knows?
Overall, I think people today are divorced of understanding who they are or what they want in life. We are exposed to so much crap these days and social media and politicians advertisers even religion use much psychology to induce what to think and buy and believe...............
Men will not admit their vulnerabilities to women. People are alone because they are separated from their God their connection to the source of life and love.
Nobody believes anymore. Once betrayed that element of trust is lost. Once betrayed people often do not trust in new relationships. Hence, people do not want to start new relationships because they can often assume that any new relationship will be like their past failures.
Love infidelity I can't live with. Sexting with the same person every night and thinking about them all day long? I reckon you'd rather be in a relationship with them.
At the end of the day I'd have to judge each case on its merits. Certain things become more forgivable when I know you would have given your life for me. A girlfriend who watches porn seems like a good thing anyway, but all the more when she stands by me when the worst happens. If you were there for me in the hard time, I shan't be giving you a hard time. Does this answer your question?
Love infidelity I can't live with. Sexting with the same person every night and thinking about them all day long? I reckon you'd rather be in a relationship with them.
At the end of the day I'd have to judge each case on its merits. Certain things become more forgivable when I know you would have given your life for me. A girlfriend who watches porn seems like a good thing anyway, but all the more when she stands by me when the worst happens. If you were there for me in the hard time, I shan't be giving you a hard time. Does this answer your question?
A good friend would give their life for you. A good friend would stand by you when the worst happens. A good friend would be there during a hard time. But a good friend is platonic. A good friend shouldn't lust after you. Because....they are just your good friend. Now....here's the difference.......in a relationship, a boyfriend, a girlfried, husband or wife...in that person you have your good friend...but also in that person, you have the man/woman who lusts after you and only you. In that person you have that good friend, that sex, that love...all in one. Why would you need to lust after another? I can only hope I've worded all that right and it makes sense
They turn to someone else for comfort. ...
They grow a deeper connection with someone else besides you. ...
They're defensive or secretive about a relationship. ...
Sudden lack of desire. ...
Increased — and seemingly unexplained — irritability. ...
They don't want to “put the time or work” into the relationship.
35 % of women do it and 45% of men.
I remember a survey I read that stated a woman would rather discover her husband or boyfriend was visiting a prostitute once a week just for sex than discover that he was in an emotional relationship with another woman with no sex.
They turn to someone else for comfort. ...
They grow a deeper connection with someone else besides you. ...
They're defensive or secretive about a relationship. ...
Sudden lack of desire. ...
Increased — and seemingly unexplained — irritability. ...
They don't want to “put the time or work” into the relationship.
35 % of women do it and 45% of men.
I remember a survey I read that stated a woman would rather discover her husband or boyfriend was visiting a prostitute once a week just for sex than discover that he was in an emotional relationship with another woman with no sex.