She's just a friend......There's always a fine line here......but where exactly is that line? I think with generation after generation, that line is getting thinner and thinner as relationships and marriages slowly seem to lose value in today's world. The divorce rate has gotten sky high and has just become the norm if marriage is even a factor at all. My opinions on this will probably end up further on the s/hitlist, but with the way this week's been, it just doesn't even matter.....fire away. Anywho......Where was I....yes...that fine line ....
Where do you draw the line? What, in your opinion, is considered cheating?
Do you physically have to catch them in bed with someone else?
What if they go to another man/woman's house alone who they said is a friend of theirs? (but without you)
Or if they flirt with seemingly "harmless" verbal s*xual inuendos with friends of the opposite sex?
Chatting with another man/woman online for hours?
What if they seem to hide their phone from you so you don't see their messages? Are you really being nosey though? Why should they feel the need to hide it in the first place?
In my past experience, those relationships with men that have lots of lady friends never really ended well....either they ended up crossing that "friendship line" a little too closely or the women would get involved in the relationship and put their nose where it shouldn't have been. Every. Time. And of course, it's always said "she's just a friend" ....was she really? Or just a back up plan stashed away for when things started to get a little rough in your own relationship?
I don't know....my parents were married till death did they part, may they rest in peace ....and that was a mighty long time. They never had these problems then. My mom would never go to some male friend's house....and my dad would never go out and grab lunch with some other woman. They wouldn't have phone conversations with an outside friend....Did they have friends of the opposite sex? Sure! Absolutely! ....but, out of respect, they would get together with these friends as a couple. They'd go out with friends all the time.....go to dances, bowling, out to dinner....yes, with friends, often....but, they did it together...as a couple. Their friends respected that line....which was so much clearer then.
Some will say, things were different then. Life was different. Well, I say....it sure was! Because then, there was more respect. There was more loyalty. The relationships and marriages were much stronger and held more importance. But was that really so bad? Did it really need changing? ...or has our "new and improved" outlook only deadened the hearts of many and killed off the morality of that once loving bond....
Well.....I guess I'm a little old school on this. I've never adapted to the modernized take on such relationships....and I never will. I live by the roles of the old society within the home and relationships. ...such a dying breed, indeed.