Would you date somebody that is less than half your age...
that you are not exactly attracted to, but they just threw themselves at you?Let's set some parameters. You are hitting an older age where you know you are not getting exactly younger.
The person, seems to be very mature and well grounded.
You are very good friends.
You have been single for over 10 years and the idea of adding someone to your life is a bit scary.
Their mom and dad is younger than you.
There are so many more. I think the best response, especially after having a couple of drinks was to say, I am flattered...and give her a hug.
Another parameter...you know there are some other people interested in you...but they are in a relationship, married...and have never come out and said anything...but you know their behavior around you speaks volumes. They are people you are attracted to....
So...how do you do the dance here
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Got one life - better live it the way we want to!
The weekend was fine.
I just talked to her like I usually do and gave her a hug.
In my eyes, we are still friends.
All very good points. Thank you for sharing your experience with a fairly large age gap and how things turn out in the end.
Very eye opening.
Younger women do like older more mature men, also...most of those older men are more financially stable as well.
The single/married around here...well...I guess there is a mix of attractive and non attractive in my opinion. Attraction is somewhat subjective. I was told once that I was too picky.
I might be the fruit sitting at the top of tree.
I have given my situation a lot more thought and being a man and using logic, situations I get involved in would have to be worth the potential negative side effects.
Now days, that potential for negative side effects are pretty darn high, in my opinion.
Most women mature quicker than what men do. I have heard it said that men usually mature after 30 years old...I actually think I recall it said being after 40.
As far as me going out with her...well, we just frequent the same bar. Her expressing her feelings for me kind of caught me off guard...and after considering everything...I would like to just have it remain as we are friends.
If she does ask me out directly about her advance, I think I know have about a half of a book's worth of content I could politely share with her.
Yeah...that is an option. ...one that I am not opposed to.... Especially today, relationships are high risk for men. (so I hear)
So...on a logical level....the risk/reward equation needs to balance out at minimum.
I am doing well, thank you for asking. How have you been doing?
No, I don't like taking advantage of anyone. In all fairness, she is still an adult. But, I am pretty sure we are going to remain friends.
Very true...one should indeed live their lives. But using some logic to navigate it makes life a little easier.
Very true...one should indeed live their lives. But using some logic to navigate it makes life a little easier.
my opinion.... it helps...
taking time to think... (even
a year is ok
because... regeret is... worst
thing... for our mind health.
just saying...
No kissing with tongue on your date with her? No making out? No hot tub? No romantic action?
SHEESH! What the hail kind of date was that?
Come on now!
Maybe I need to hook you up with Chloe Cobwebs. She'll show the right way a date is supposed to go. If you know what I mean?
And and don't forget to get the young lady some lollipops and tootsie rolls for Valentine's Day.
I have had 13 years to think so far.
...no, I am still thinking.
But where I can't help you there I can tell you a thing or two about the banshees of Inisherin
I took a younger lady to the bar one eve, and I ordered myself a cheap beer and ordered her a milk.
However, one lady, I gave her a 5-pack of mini-hershey's chocolate bars that cost a dollar at the dollar store. And next thing I know, she was calling me everyday and and expecting some nookie too. Yikes!
a Baileys in her
If she's your designated
datedriveron the contrary, she wanted me to drive her home!
The frog replied, "RrrrBrrt! Rrbbrrrtt!"
I said, 'Yeah! That's me. You can say my name. Cool!"
But these aliens, were they speaking Gaeilge
The shining movie I know was a snowstorm and cabin fever..
And everybody says,
Heeeere's Johnny!
Brrrrr,bbbbrrrr.
I would kindly like to know what the shiny ones say about..
Trutha Dan-Dan