A place of rest, disturbed.
Went to the graveyard this afternoon, not been there since my sisters ashes went down with mother, in December gone. Plan was to remove withered flower's, tidy up the grave and get it ready for spring bloom. Among the usual bits and bobs already on the grave was heart stone with the words MUM engraved along with a sentimental verse, the moment I seen it, I had a bad feeling about it.I am the main keeper of the grave, the others never visit but nevertheless I asked my siblings all the same if any had left the stone there recently, and like I guessed, neither of the three had which means there is one remaining ... he being the prodigal son, my youngest brother.
It's a real stone/rock, heart shaped, nice imprint of the image of Jesus along with lovely words...
" two tired eyes are sleeping"
two willing hands are still
the one who worked so hard for us
is resting at Gods will.
The end of the heart is flat, designed as if to go in soil, I picked it up, there was a very rusty stand at it's back to stand it upright, it looked old and the flat part looked discolored, as if it were in the ground, but on my mothers grave it was not.
I can't prove it but I know it was stolen from another woman's / mothers grave and and that bothers me BIG TIME, not just because my own mother was very superstitious about stealing from graves but in my eyes, it's morally wrong
Now I've the task of trying to find the lady's grave the stone should be resting on...
I've no idea how the heck I'm going to do that, but I'll try
but regardless of whatever, I'm not going to be leaving the stolen stone on my mothers grave.
Just out of a matter of interest ....
Is what my brother done, forgivable?
Comments (15)
I'm not sure if you would be able to forgive your brother for something like this.
Me and my family have had some problems over the years with our loved ones graves . Some people tend to take steel vases off the markers no matter if chains are holding them in. They break the chains regardless. We've had to order news steel vases to put the flowers we buy into them.
I'm not sure if you would be able to forgive your brother for something like this.
Me and my family have had some problems over the years with our loved ones graves . Some people tend to take steel vases off the markers no matter if chains are holding them in. They break the chains regardless. We've had to order news steel vases to put the flowers we buy into them.
but I am a little curious, would most agree with me this time, I'm right not to.
That must get your back up, wouldn't be able to deal with that now anyone stealing from my loved ones, graves .... but what else really, can one do
Is there a reason you go for steel vases?
Not that I'd ever but between you and me, I'd be afraid to steal from anyone's grave
but I am a little curious, would most agree with me this time, I'm right not to.
That must get your back up, wouldn't be able to deal with that now anyone stealing from my loved ones, graves .... but what else really, can one do
Is there a reason you go for steel vases?
Not that I'd ever but between you and me, I'd be afraid to steal from anyone's grave
don't understand the chains either, but each to their own ways and styles.
Boozers sometimes vandalize graveyards here, you would imagine graveyards of all places is the one place respect would be upheld....people eh
Looting someone's grave is bad but then why would you visit the graveyard to begin with? It seems such a contradiction to even think of visiting your mother's grave, but then do that
Looting someone's grave is bad but then why would you visit the graveyard to begin with? It seems such a contradiction to even think of visiting your mother's grave, but then do that
Looting someone's grave is bad but then why would you visit the graveyard to begin with? It seems such a contradiction to even think of visiting your mother's grave, but then do that
If he payed the visit with a sincere thought but left with a wrong doing.....
I agree, his actions were a pure contradiction of any good thought.
In my eyes, he as much spat on her grave.
I got to wondering what you Sister would be thinking about this as she looks down on her siblings. Did she have a good relationship with him?
As for the tablet I would be asking around from the Council or whomever manages the cemetery if they can cast any light on it.
I understand where you are coming from especially as you are still coming to terms with her loss but try not to let it eat away at you . Forgive but don't forget.
I got to wondering what your Sister would be thinking about this as she looks down on her siblings. Did she have a good relationship with him?
As for the tablet I would be asking around from the Council or whomever manages the cemetery if they can cast any light on it.
I understand where you are coming from especially as you are still coming to terms with her loss but try not to let it eat away at you . Forgive but don't forget.
I got to wondering what you Sister would be thinking about this as she looks down on her siblings. Did she have a good relationship with him?
As for the tablet I would be asking around from the Council or whomever manages the cemetery if they can cast any light on it.
I understand where you are coming from especially as you are still coming to terms with her loss but try not to let it eat away at you . Forgive but don't forget.
now that you mentioned my sis, it never dawned on me it could of been either her son or daughter ( but it is an old stone) so I guessed not but I was right, It was none of either.
My brother did not go to my sisters funeral but that's neither here or there as this blog is not about our family matter but the wrong that was done to a deceased woman and her family
Hopefully the care taker can leave it in his shed because I'll not be leaving it on the grave and hopefully the rightful family will report it missing and all shall end well with forgetting but without forgiving. Which in my eyes is not my call..... its not the way I am, but it is my belief, if that makes any sense.
Tah for your input
My apologies for that Snow
just to show I can be genuinely apologetic I won't ask the next question which is quickly coming to mind.
But should you ask though
according to my brother he never left the stone there either....
Apparently our western winds are stronger then seemed
Oh well, this makes it easier for me when handing it into the care taker.
Thanks all for sharing your views here
according to my brother he never left the stone there either....
Apparently our western winds are stronger then seemed
Oh well, this makes it easier for me when handing it into the care taker.
Thanks all for sharing your views here
Maybe,just maybe ,he is telling the truth, but you know him best of course.
Maybe,just maybe ,he is telling the truth, but you know him best of course.
For a change it makes my life easier that he lied.
To peaceful endings
well from my end anyways, hopefully the stone can be returned to where it should be.