Bread & Cheese

Life is generally about relationships and how we navigate in and around them. There’s no avoiding everyday social interactions, so it’s really nice when they’re pleasant, loving, memorable, or positive in any other way. And, it’s natural to want to be a part of a relationship that could fulfil your needs in an holistic manner. That is, one that’s a blessing to you emotionally, mentally, physically/sexually and also spiritually.

Even the world’s wealthiest or most successful beings yearn for such a relationship, and they too know that money could only buy them so much (the illusion of happiness doesn’t last very long, nor does very much to mask the truth). Hence the frequent search for a friend, lover, companion, etc. is a universal one.

There’s a local Trini saying that “every bread has it’s cheese”, with some variants to that adding “stale" after ‘bread’ and even “rotten” after ‘cheese’(). Bread and cheese go together to make a pretty decent sandwich (especially when you add mayo, a slice of tomato, and some cayenne pepper to spice things up). The saying’s rough translation is that there’s someone for everyone. The problem with that, if it’s true, seems to be 1. How do I find my ‘cheese’ and, 2. Where is he located? But, that’s only if the saying is true.

What if we’ve met before and dismissed each other, does that mean that we’ll spend the rest of our life searching in vain? What if we live on opposite ends of the earth and never leave our respective end, how would we ever fulfil our destiny? Is that why some of us continually get married (then divorced), until we could find our designated ‘cheese’? Well, whether you’re the ‘bread’ or the ‘cheese’, the search in on-going.

Many of the CS population came here with the intention of doing just that. Some have succeeded, some are still on the hunt, and others may have moved on to other pursuits. This month marks the end of a year of searching for my ‘cheese’ on here, with no success. I’ve chatted with a few, was propositioned by at least 5, but haven’t said ‘yes’ to any. But then, none of them seemed to be my ‘cheese’. To be true, a few were just too cheesy!

Anyhoo, as I contemplate my future in this regard, I wonder if my very own chunk of cheese is still out there somewhere….