Communication: kitchen sinking it

Now that's one way to get communication between couples disasterous! Are you the sort to kitchen sink it when arguing with your partner? I sure have never done it and since I don't hold grudges I can only assume that it is such people that always kitchen sinking it!
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i prefer to sit in d corner to think or sleep than arguing with my partner,,, when the house is calm thats the time to exchange different communications!!!! For me a secret of good communication in couples are 'hugs and kisses'...
Oh, well once in a while my man and I argue about stuff that like me wanting to buy and own expensive watches when even I see one that I like. Arguing can be healthy its only when people 'kitchen sink it'~starts throwing in past mistakes. That is not healthy argument.
I'd be on my way to the pub before it got to that stage.grin
i just don't think that there are very many things are worth arguing over
Adamski you will be suprised. Watch the 'Marriage Ref' tv show and you'll get it.
Billfatwas, I tried to avoid your comment rite after you had just posted.
You walking out will definetly get me started. And u and I as a couple not agreeing on something, would get me to ask you to walk out (like you always do) when it get heated. That would be me kitchen sinking it. Now I kinda get it, maybe the people that do it feel pushed to dunno
na i don't need to watch a show about it i was married once she loved to argue my point is that 99 % of the things people argue over isn't worth arguing over .
yes this is truth, a lot of people are arguing for nothing. I went a course in psychology about communication. they say among the other things that as soon is gets heated find some kind of sign, a trigger that you are going too long and it's time to calm down. like show a piece of green paper, it would be a sign to stop. both parts need to calm down and then discuss the problem in normal voice. some arguing is good and healthy and gives both parts a chance to be better.
arguing is definitely better then keep silent and put up with everything and then just explode in one or another way or inwards, like getting ill.
the main thing is communication, the accused part would now what's wrong and it should be possible to improve. many things are not worth arguing at all and just hurt and destroy the relationship.
we stopped argue long time before with my ex and had a good relationship when we separated, we had different goals in life though. but with son as a teenager it was impossible to argue in a civilized way, he didn't care about logic or communication and could get easily overheated. now he lives by himself and if he didn't like something I say, he just disappears.(his ego is hurt when i give him some advise, he wants to be big and know best, so he almost never do anything directly, but eventually laugh )so he all have our ways to deal with arguments
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