Are you ready?

In contemplating a relationship!

* Being in-between relationships are you looking inward?

* Do you understand what happened with your last relationship?

* Did you accept responsibility for your bad choices or are you still blaming your ex? Are you ready to make better choices?

* Are you still angry?

* Have you buried your anger and feelings or do you understand them and released them?

* Do you really know and understand what kind of relationship you really want?

* Are you expressing yourself as you really are, to the best of your ability?

* Are you honest with others and looking to make someone happy or are you always only thinking of yourself.

* Do you realize that love and happiness comes from within you, not from the outside?

* Have you faced and acknowledged your insecurities and are working on them?

* Have you improved your social communication skills?

Did I miss any?

If your answer to most of these are NO! Then you ARE NOT READY to have a meaningful and long lasting relationship and if you get involved with those that are seeking such a bond with a person, you will be wasting their time and yours and you are being dishonest with them!! TJMHO!


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Good blog, Ruben! Along the lines of love coming from within, may I add (much to Mike3478's chagrin) that we will only express love from within if we are able to love ourselves. And along with accepting responsibility comes the need to forgive yourself/myself so that we can forgive the ex and move on in a healthy way. I really like the ideas you are bringing to the blogs!applause thumbs up wine
Hi Ruben! wave

I answered yes to all of the above, except, ironically I really dont want a relatinship right now.....dunno beer
Yes is my answer wave and ready for loving someone blushing laugh grin
All great ponderances to pontificate.

I would add: Do you understand that love involves sacrifice, unselfishness, and the desire for the other's happiness and well being as well as your own? That love is a decision, and not just a feeling? cheers
Hi Drea111, then you know what you want, thanks for posting.

Good for you Milanda, God bless, thanks for posting,

So, true calmheartseeks, thanks for posting.

wine cheers teddybear
i am truly co-dependent....drinking but a very healthy relationship 2...drinking
Smitten, I guess it depends on the person your with but, do you ever feel like your taken for granted? dunno grin

Thanks for commenting!! bouquet
i was just fooling aroun ruben...it took me along time to love myself before i could even committ to another realtionship...long time, and had many insecurties in the past, still do, but i have a partner with unconditional acceptance, and i keep learning something new everyday...i still have alot of growing to do...teddybear
I am glad to read your going in such positive direction and that you meet someone that can see it all through with you.

We are all learning something new daily and I am sure most of us, especially myself, are still dealing with that long list I created in some areas or another! I have just recently, I mean just days ago,I came into terms with my anger toward my ex, it's all a work in progress!! angel cheers bouquet
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