Is it a screen that you are trying to get friendly
When I have nothing better to do and extremely bored, I was thinking about various people I got to know online..may be within a short-period like two or three years. I can easily ask these people to sit at different tables, where I could place tags such as “people who are still in touch”, “People whom I love to keep in touch but couldn’t“ “People who came with a bang and went with a bang”, “people who came with a bang but left silently”.. “People who came silently and left silently” and “People I have seen but not spoken to” any more tags?. hmm well that’s all they can be…Well… was wondering how easy to start (or end) a friendship in the virtual world coz you are just addressing (or is it playing with?) the mind of someone, without getting interfered by the real world blockages such as his/her negative body languages, lack of courage to ask inappropriate questions, fear of seeing his/her tears, fear of being counted as a mutt, fear of being discussed amongst the others in the circle (gossip) and so on.. After all, in the virtual world, it’s just a stranger, and a possible friendship material, and a chance to take or leave!!
In most real world scenarios, a decent looking man (ok I must admit I haven’t dealt much with females in the virtual world), given a civilized face to face conversation with a stranger, (say a lady) that he has spoken only two days previously, wouldn’t dare to ask questions like “Wanna be my wife, cab driver, nurse, whatever..?” or “I’m about to hold you personally responsible and caretaker of my d**k”or “The lion has not tasted blood since the young age of 21 years”!!! Nor he would ask the number of thongs in her wardrobe or the colour of her nipples!! That’s not the way you make friends in the real world! The bluntness of the virtual society supersedes decency and politeness!! The blood rush of virtual society could possibly damage several brain cells of an unprepared person and might permanently disable his/her innocence, kindness and thoughtfulness…
Now this is a question i ask myself, always..may be a question without an answer) Why the hell that some people talk so much about how bad their day and the upset stomach they were having for more than a week and the neighbour’s dog who ate their cat last week, before they find out that they have dialed a wrong number?
When you meet a stranger, in the virtual world, isn’t it good to slow down and let them inhale you slowly? (of-course only if they want to) Isn’t it good to act like you are dealing with a real mind, flesh and blood, than pretending to think that it’s a screen that you are trying to get friendly with!!
Ohh I have too much of time in my hand I gez… But its fun to be able to reflect!!!
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what do u think?
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vent some buried feelings or thoughts and by writing it down to an unknown person we feel a confort. Because they have a fear of saying these things to the one they love.
I dunno. People come on this site and expect everything to happen in an instant.
And the message doesn't seem to get through their thick noggins that their bluntness is the problem.
Patience is a virtue,
Possess it if you can,
Seldom found in woman,
Never found in man
Present company excluded, of course
I was thinking about a similar thing a month or so ago. But I think maybe I came to a different conclusion than you have here.
It dawned on me one day, that after a certain period of time engaging, this website actually becomes a microcosm of the real world. Sure, maybe not as it relates to insecurities and inhibitions (asking absurd questions, being bold, etc) but, all the typical social aspects are present here.
People form cliques, people gossip, people pick and choose whom they feel they would best relate to, people flirt, people dream, people share stories...people exhibit many of the same behaviors they would in real life, but maybe here they are magnified to a certain extent.
I think one of the main differences for me at least, is that there is alot more time to reflect on what we write than there would be in real life. I can edit, I can withold information, I can research, but, in real life, you dont have the time to do all those things. This extra time is what allows people to stray from their true self, and I suppose create a somewhat 'secondary personality' if you will.
You still with me?
Anyway, to answer your question, I think many people here are just searching for some unknown thing to take them away from the real world temporarily, and maybe go over the top with sharing information, or like you said, are unaware of your style, or your reactions, and you may also be editing and sugarcoating your reactions, to be polite, and these things can be mistaken........all in all, I suppose there are perks and downsides to the internet, its just a matter of perspective
Ah by the way, though CS admin would not let me keep it for long, an open book represents me better.
Melody,I object to being called a stringer...:-)
You seen my profile and I seen yours...
There for we are thick as a brick friends...;-))))))))))
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