relationship and status, is it really that stress-

What is a relationship really?
Is it just an interaction between two people with all the rules, the yes and no, the can and can't that follows ?
Or is it a feeling, a feeling of belonging, regardless of the rules, distance, spaces and characters in between?
A relation as a sense of belonging is so natural, it needed no complicated rules.
Just many of willingly given understanding from both side.
When you come home after a long day at work, after life has been harsh on us, after a long boring parents meeting, after a nice dinner with families, after a long happy shopping with friends or after a girls night out, what is it exactly that we expected to find??
What is it exactly that we are looking for?
Many long to find a lover, a friend, a spouse, a protector, a family when they get home.
But others, they want to find a home to their heart.
A home to connect and shielded the love from the world outside, a home to share and to feel but most of all a home for the heart to grow together.
But you see, many people mistaken love with interest,lust and desire.
They build rules to guard and protected their homes.
So that no one could escape or come in and steal what institutionally belongs to them.
But relationship is not a cage for the heart
Love needs no boundary, no rules...
BECAUSE LOVE IS THE RULES...
And the intitution and status that follows are the casing,a system that made with rules, which we could switch and customize according to the love and not the other way arround.
One can be married their whole life but never felt the love
but many that stands outside the relationship finds rainbow in their sky...
All im saying is a relationship should be felt not kept, should be build not guard ...
It is a natural giving feeling that it should be stress free...
Love is the real gift of life.
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Rules ???
Are they printed on the box top ? dunno

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You know, it's a better question to ask: What's a table? A device to eat off, or a furniture to put the tv on top of? Is a table a social activity to introduce and issue, or is a table a feature of a word processing software?

I can answer these questions. But I can't define a relationship. Your question is valid, but it's not possible to answer it. Some say that if a question can't be answered, then it's a pointless question. But philosophers don't say that, at all, because their entire paycheque depends on asking questions that are unanswerable.

In my opinion a relationship is a word for two people who pretend to themselves, to others and to each other that they love each other, but they are faking it, actually, because if they were in love, they'd get married.

In other words, a relationhsip is a good word to use when you want to say to another guy "move off my girl, or else", without feeling the need to get into a fistfight over it.

In other words, a relationship is a guiding beacon for sailors who sail treacherous waters with their junks. This is a metaphor.
i love this blog friend love is a grand design love can be a friendship a together just look in your heart that's love glad to see you back friend
relationship is a bond between two people that bond is love
i couldn't agree more, with the point that venus makes,

''Relatedness is different. It is about simply being present when in the company of any person, regardless of the form that takes. There is less identification with the idea of the "box" of relationship''.

how lovely, for 2 people, to be with each other, just being themselves, with there lovely special qualities, which attracted you to them in the first place, without the molding and shaping, coming into play, which destroys so many relationships, and pulls people out of shape, losing themselves, and there individuality, which made them special in the first place.

oh; and while im at it, welcome back kasih, special unique you, was missed too, by so many people.teddybear
wave welcome back Kash, I'm also agree with Venus, Ben and Tara's metaphor, in other words, life/love/relationship is a show where we choose to be the players or the viewers!hug
As people use the Internet more and more to interact I wonder what the consequences of that will be in the future as we all become cyber units interacting behind a screen. lightbulb grin
laugh then the rubber business goes bust.doh no tojans only michelens.crying no michelens a good tire.applause laugh cheers
kas dear
relation is a fight with urself.trying to sattisfy ur lover and bringing ur needs to the second place.
stop being the selfish person u had been as single,and sucrifice ur ego on the common life.
ofcourse u can feel prisoner sometimes ,but if ur other half is wise ,will find the ways to let u feel free.wine bouquet lips wave
kasih, I think you are having a case of cold feet....
"relation is a fight with urself.trying to sattisfy ur lover and bringing ur needs to the second place.
stop being the selfish person u had been as single,and sucrifice ur ego on the common life.
ofcourse u can feel prisoner sometimes ,but if ur other half is wise ,will find the ways to let u feel free"

Sacrifice your ego on the common life.....other half will find the ways to let you feel free. Why is it these two statements seem to be at total odds with one another?

If someone told me I needed to sacrifice myself for the sake of the relationship, and then said he could make me feel free, I would run for the hills as fast as I could. There is something not right with that statement, Alf.

Good luck, Kasih!
u r free to run jump .swim ,whatever.thats how i am ,not what i ask the others to be.after all dear u can have ur opinion .banana confused frustrated doh comfort
Alf, I wish you all the happiness in the world! I am only speaking from my own point of view. May all that you deserve find its way to you on the wings of light. bouquet
Hi Kasih!

Have to agree with Miss V here....and also Mjames......

first you have to figure out and define exactly what it is you want from a partner, and come to common ground on your expectations of each other, before you can have a successful relationship.
pix, if a screen could replace the skin than i think i would go for it it, hehe, Ben,carb,bh70,billy, tarapt,hugh1 thx for your comment and these comments really enriched my understanding but im not fully back here hehehe still recollecting my sanitty,ct well what is a cold feet actually??, drea yea i think venus has put my blogs in simpler and better words, john i do hope you find that piece of heaven in you.
Only you can decide at the end of the day Kasih what you think and feel is right for you and hopefully the other person understands and does not pressurise you. People/ Friends can only offer you advice or a view point but it seems to me some people have given you some very good insights here. Good Luck!
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