An interview is not a selection process.
Most people approach a job interview thinking about what they need to do to get selected for the position. Researching the organisation on the internet, deciding which parts of their experience most closely match the new job and so on.However, most people forget that an interview is not a selection process. It's a de-selection process, which is quite different.
Some obvious examples. Your CV is scruffy and poorly laid out. It goes in the bin and you get no interview. You are an hour late for the interview. Game over, you have already been deselected. You make it clear to the interviewer that you are only interested in what the pay rate is and the hours of work. Deselected.
So what has this got to do with a dating site? Quite a lot, because the principle is the same. It's a deselection process. Your first email makes it clear that the main attraction is the woman's body, (even if this is true). Probably deselected, unless the woman is a) old and flattered or b) desperate. You show no interest in the thoughts of the other person. Deselected.
A dating website is not a selection process.
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BTW, may I have a question? Your profile saying that “…taste for fast cars, (but not so fast women)”… what do you mean by saying “fast women”? :-) (I am going to make neither my selection nor deselection, just a curious question. Please reply only if it is convenience for you). Thanks.
Anyway my taste for cars, I have a preference for Ferrari but I currently drive a Porsche. You know Ferrari is like a woman - great to look at and when things are running well it cannot be beaten. However when things go wrong you realise it might have been an expensive mistake. A Porsche on the other hand is like a guy; dependable, reliable, solid and will never let you down on the Autobahn. Does this answer your question ?
What dont you get my little petal? I think its really quite clear, if you mess up before, during or after an interview you dont get selected. When I get CVs sent to me I take about 15 seconds looking through each of them, I either see what I want to see quickly and if I dont it goes in the bin. Its de-selection - every stage of the process is designed to weed out the chaff from the wheat. To get rid of the weeds from amongst the flowers. Now verstehen sie, meine liebling?
This is out of my league!
being short is not my fault. but i just don't like that people judge my ability according to my height.
Ms Hen, how wonderful to see you clucking around. I was just talking about blind chickens and things and then along comes one.
by the way, that i didn't go there for the interview doesn't mean that i have no jobs and no income.
But its good to know that you have jobs and income, flower. I am happy to hear that rather than thinking of you sweeping a small stretch of motorway.
I shut my mouth..
I meant you for Emy ....will you ever forgive me for the wrong spelling? try pls
I read what you wrote and i got the impression you tend to mix up attraction with love.You can feel attraction in an heart beat and 20 times a day for 20 different people but you cant love someone until you know them well and deeply.Jmo
if you call all 'love' i think you might have some selection/deselection difficulties in the future ....so if I ask you for example 'do you want to be my lover ?' I guess you dont mind if I mean for a night or for 10 years , do you ?
Actually, you can call me whatever you want! I'm just a little surprised where you came up with my name Emy? But now all is clear to me that its was just a typo.
About the feeling I called my love, actually its not as what you think! I feel love, meaning that I like that person very much (for his talent, handsome, charm, witty, writing, kind heart, honest, etc... whatever reason!). I want to be closed with that person and I want to talk with that person. I care for that person and I feel sad if they are not happy... something like that.
Its is totally not about "a night" or "10 years" as you said!
Thus, to reply for your indecent question, my answer would: "NO, I don't want to be a lover of someone for a limit time, if I commit to love someone, I will commit to love FOREVER! (or love until I can't love anymore)". Definitely NOT a night or a week or a year or 10 years!
The partner, let’s see! (because I am not so sure!)
John, I think the problem with Ms Hamy is that she has de-selected the entire male population as regards certain things.
I think I have to get out off here!