I'd Rather Believe In True LoveVery recently, someone said to me, "You are
a dreamer, dreaming with your eyes closed.
What's all this talk about finding a soul
mate and true love? There is no true love
and there are no soul mates. There is only
sex, and when that goes bad, then you get
someone else and get better sex."
So began a lively discussion of something
that is very dear to me. He was a fellow
prisoner, one who I would say hardly ever
smiles. Now I found out why he never smiles.
His attitude towards life was pretty sour.
"I have to disagree with that." I said,
"You've got it all wrong. Sex is actually
an expression **OF** love, and therefore
it is something that is empty if you try
to do it with someone that you don't love.
And as for your idea that there is no true
love or soul mates, then how would you
explain the fact that some people stay
married for 40 or 50 years or more? You
got some scrambled brains there, dude."
Then he looks at me like I have 2 heads,
and says "If they stayed together for 40
or 50 years, then the sex must have been
really great!" I sighed. Some people
just don't get it. No wonder the guy
never smiles. He ain't got nothing to
smile about thinking the way he does.
An attitude like that is worse than a
life sentence would be (and I'm glad I
don't have a life sentence!) I'd rather
believe in true love. I'd rather believe
there is a soul mate out there for me
somewhere and someday I will find her.
When I see the love light in my own
parent's eyes for each other even after
28 years, it fuels the fire of this belief.
When I see my sister's family and how much
her husband still loves her after 15 years
of marriage, I admit - this gives me alot
of hope. I have yet a brother who has been
with his wife for 9 years, and they are as
happy together now as they were when they
first got married - and probably even more.
Again, this gives me incredible faith that
I will surely find a true love for myself too.
Martin Luther King said, "Faith is taking
the first step, even when you can't see the
whole staircase." I would add to this that
sometimes the first step is simply believing.
I'd rather believe in true love.