Dispatches from the dating arena...

...The Profile Question...

I cant speak for anyone else, but personal profiling is an art i have yet to master...Writing about "guff and nonsense" is to me, nearly as natural as drawing breath, but describing "ones self" is akin to trying to do the the Michael Jackson "moonwalk" wearing golf shoes (you know, the spikey ones)...
Its been some months in "Looking for love" land, and after six full re-writes and numerous "tweeks" i still hav'nt found who i am!, and so im languishing in a sort of profile "no mans land" so to speak...Ok, in fairness some of it has been born on the back end of a couple of dates and a handfull of "very nearly's", but i find I'm changing my expectations here on site with the onset of time and circumstance (as indeed im sure the same can be said for many)...Am i any less interested in finding that special someone, the answer would be no...Do i have less expecation of finding that person in the short to medium term, well the honest answer would have to be yes...Is this a problem?...Really, No its not, im prepaired for the "long game"...
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So why is the profile still elusive?...

We are a complex animal, its reasonable to say that in evolving as people we connect readily to the tagline "a work in progress"...That being said, could some of us not make the leap forward from the typical "would like to meet" profile by numbers and "engage" in a more imaginative way with potentialy interested parties...To wit...(now the scarcastic bit!)...
I know your unique, you have fingerprints and D.N.A to support that statement, so, why not tell more about the real you...The you that others "really" want to know...
Let me be frank (if frank does'nt mind!), I dont drink wine in front of a roaring fire while watcing a DVD, I hate walking on the beach in a force 9 gale, I dont like gardening or dancing till my feet hurt, I would rather fill my ears with concrete than listen to country and western music...(now the genuine bit)...But i do go overboard for a profile with "depth"...I dont have to see your picture (although its always appreciated) to know wether or not im going to be interested in you...What I am saying is, a good "free text" is manna from heaven...
Ask youself, out there in the real world, what fires you up about a person?, is it the looks (which will fade inevitably with time), or the depth of character...Its a no brainer really...I know when the right one comes along (as she surely will), it will be her words and the pictures she paints with language that will reel me in...
So, in closing, the effort spent on profiling is, or should be time well spent...It is essentially the most important piece of writing any of us will ever do on a dating site...Whats the expression, ah yes..."you ony get one shot at a first impression"...thats no lie...
And with that said, I'm off for a coffee, a cigarette, and a notepad full of ideas......I WISH!...

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All the best...Lard...