What is LOVE? Part II

.... in continuity to the previous post What is LOVE?

Love is not a feeling for me.. it is conscious submission to somebody and; giving the complete control in some ones hands knowing your life will never be your own again .. and when something like this happens , I would hardly care about tomorrow. Pain , sorrow all become meagre words considering when you love with such intensity .. automatically. the ultimate motive becomes the priority of loving someone and just that .In such a case if you are loved back it gets intensified, else it just does matter.

Hence :

· I could very well love somebody for the rest of my life and balance society, family, and my responsibilities.

· I could very well be in love with someone and carry a smile and not let anybody know about it

· I could tremendously love somebody and not tell HIM about it … not even let him know ..

That is what I expect out of love.. All other relationships are compatibility efforts and I do not stand against them but then the above said is what I believe in..

Secondly , I love the idea of possessiveness and obsession .I do not understand the concept of saying “ I am in love but I hate it when he touches my phone” or “ how dare he talk to me like that ?” or “ why should I tell you where I was “ ? ... I would love it if I am being possessed.. And obsession comes naturally.. !'

Wow! I read it again for myself. I am so mean that after having read it again, I am wishing to be loved like this.

But really, is it not too impractical. Is such a love possible, given that we live in post modern dynamics where influences such as family, friends, relatives, aims, ambitions, expectations from and towards others, career, our own desires are just too many. I later tried to argue the above discussion.

'I think I am a bit realistic about it.

Possession and obsession are relative terms and many a times interfere with concepts such as 'liberty', 'to be owned', 'idea of personal space' and such as 'is what i like for u' better than 'my recognition of what u like for urself'.

I feel a space or an emotion called 'love' is very simple yet very complex. This is the beauty of ‘love’. Love, I believe must be understood not as an individual emotion or concept but in totality with what surrounds and essentially what we love. I am sure no one would want to hurt their loved ones just because of love, but one cannot ignore the basic nature of a human being. Love or no love a human being is rarely selfless and this inability of not being selfless does interfere with the concept of love and assists it to become impure (impure in the context of this discussion would mean 'adulterated' and somehow i prefer to use 'impure' here). As a consequence, on close observation love does not just remain love, many other traits both inherent and acquired by a human being in many forms come to play and these in practice do end up in leaving 'love' adulterated.

My thoughts on love are more focused around the dynamics of 'love', how it interacts with other emotions in a human being that are inseparable, and impact of 'love' on two individuals in certain situations such as I am in love with X and X does not love me; i love X and X also loves me, X loves me and I do not love X, as well as how in such situations in addition to 'love' other human emotions interact and respond whilst creating and impact on two lives....

I am perhaps furthering on beyond just love....Let me add a bit more.....as just occurred to me when I read the 'compatibility part'. Would 'love' make one put an effort to become 'compatible' to the one s/he loves ad if it does then how does the idea of 'possession and obsession fit in'; can a 'compromise' be an outcome of love and further take situations such as 'I love X' etc above into consideration.....'

So what do you think? Please let me know your thoughts. It would be a pleasure.