Relationships: How Do I Deal With Loneliness
I think all of us deal with loneliness in some shape or form throughout our lives. It is really tough when all your friends have a special someone and your the only single person in the tribe of friends. Sometimes our "Friends" try to set us up and you know that does not work out too well. Then when you do go out through a recommendation, sometimes it can't be helped you piss off your friends girl friends cousin and everyone blames you as the bad guy. You want to tell them the truth but you just stay silent and let the air settle. My friends stopped trying to help me because they started to see I had pretty good judgment of character.I have learned a lot about that feeling of loneliness. After all these years I have turned loneliness into "all-one" and into a cheesy way to say "ALL ONE NESS". Don't laugh it works for me. I feel I have conquered this black dog. My social life is regulated around work but I do find time to unwind. I enjoy myself more because I have learned to appreciate my values and myself in general. I really like myself and I can't please everyone.
So, I have learned to conquer a fear and a "social angst" by forcing myself to be silent and let the feeling of loneliness to pass. The times I have broke that rule I seem to run into people like my friends now ex-girl friends cousin again who was a desperate lady looking for someone to cure her of her loneliness. How paradoxical.
Be good to yourself today.
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I have spent much of my life travelling/working all over the uk, so have spent a lot of time by myself, sometimes in very remote areas. I never minded at all during those times, but now a days it is a different story. There is a distinct difference between "being alone" and "being lonely".
This can apply to anything but we will be dealing with the emotion of loneliness. Close your eyes. You are at an infinite wall of loneliness (poverty, anger, etc.). You are not able to go around it, dig under it or climb over it. As you sit in silence in front of the wall, wait and listen if you hear anything on the other side. Maybe you do not hear anything. It does not matter. Touch the wall. What do you sense, feel, smell. It does not matter if you do. Sit and wait. Then when you feel finished, decide what you want to do or decide to do nothing at all.
One of the issues I have with people who teach visualization is they give the student too much information and direction. Most teachers are bogos anyway. Try it. You are equipped naturally and you are capable to be your self.
Thanks for the comments and be good to yourself today.