why cant i seem to get a boyfriend??

hey all im a 26 year old single mum and cant seem to find a nice man that wants me for who i am... Should i be expected to change for a man and vice versa or is it possible to find someone who makes u feel comfortable in your own skin????
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You have just joined the club. It seems that most men dont see the importance of accepting women as they are. No dont change for anyone but yourself. You are still young as oppose to me at 42 and a single mom things just keep getting harder.
ermm .. u cannot find a biyfriend??

ermm .. I think I misunderstood your blog... explain further please.

Cheers.
i dun get the point..dunno
Well it's hard to judge who you are from just this, but I think your looks are very striking, and that probably attracts the type of guys that don't need girlfriends. I'd want to get to know you for who you are but probably wouldn't be able to approach you. Certain women seem to move in circles of "kids come first" (not saying they shouldn't, just that when you're with your kid you're highly unapproachable), and "out with mates" (usually a group of equally striking lookers).

Hope that wasn't offensive. Just trying to answer your question.
Dont feel bad..In todays world many men use the internet like a pick up bar and are only interested in getting sex and not a relationship..There are still some good men out there but be careful not to settle for just anyone because you are lonely..embrace your being single, date more than one but dont fall into the no strings sex trap because in my opinion most women cannot have no strings attatched sex without falling in love with the player and hoping he will change.
you are still young and can enjoy life dont settle and eventually in time you will find the right man..cheers
@swiss


I believe u said what u are saying here for at least a trillion times...

I can understand that perhaps u had a bad experience (NB all: just speculation) but you should also take into account the fact that u haven't yet tried me.

Then and only then u'll be able to conceive the blessing that the internet has bestowed on you by giving you the opportunity to experience such a wonderful, intelligent, rich, loving, caring, nice and above all handsome guy like me.


O' course... humbly speaking....


(please consider me.. I beg u ... please!!.... crying crying crying crying crying crying crying crying )


uh oh uh oh
26 year old single mum
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I stopped reading. Nobody want to take care of a child that is not his own.
@azull

that's what I call cold brutality!

well let me tell u that many men do not agree with u and I am one of them. A friend of mine was a single mum and now she's been happily married with someone -not her kid's father- for 3 year. (:
If there a person or man who love you, he has to love you not just by yourself for also for your kid. True love never see your past life or cos you already leave that behind you, he has to see you what who you are right now.

No worry there is be a man who will love & accept you like who you are soon or later you will find him. While that just keep forward for your life comfort

hug
@azull...such depth of character...You are exactly
the kind of man I would try to avoid at all costs. Empty. Don't worry honey, someone will love you and your kid...take your time and do not settle. (For shallow types)
... not under any circumstances should you change yourself .. what you believe in .. your standards .. the person you are .. to suit someone else. Be your own person .. be you. That's all you can be, and all you should be. You have your whole life ahead of you .. love will find you .. but only when destiny/fate has you in it's sights. Plenty of time .. and plenty of fish in the sea. Be completely happy and comfy in your own skin .. you are you. Be happy and be proud. Good luck ... wave
None of us are perfect, you know your highs and lows and work on that but do it only if you feel the need to do it for yourself and no one else. Don’t just hang in there hoping someone interesting comes along but put some effort or more effort into making such an encounter happen.

Good luck comfort
What wrong with your kid's DAD?
my childs father does not live in Iireland....im told by my friends im too nice and too soft and when they see that they tend to walk on you maybe i should be more mean.....grrrrrrdevil
Dont listen to that azull guy, he is only speaking for himself.
I have known many females who were single moms and they found a nice man and got married..
your young and seem like a nice person, dont let the world or what some mean people say change that..cheers
More men bashing, when will it end laugh
NOPE, WOULD NOT BE A PROBLEM FOR ME. IF SHE WAS THE RITE WOMAN AND HAD A CHILD, I WOULD RAISE HE OR SHE JUST LIKE HE OR SHE WAS MY OWN, NOW, YOU HAVE A BETTER RELATIONSHIP AN A FAMILY, WHAT COULD BE BETTER THAN THAT ? BY THE WAY, DONT CHANGE ANY THING !
People don't usually get what they want. look around yourself there might be someone who loves u silently.
You are a good looking girl im 39 so youre more than lightly not intrested im a single dad its a pain ive got the same problem if i was in ireland id take you outsw. i ll rephase that the lad isnt the problem if whoever cant except for who u are its there problem u shouldnt change.


JASON
Sorry babydoll. There is only one solution......or two actually. Men in your age range must be either mature enough for a single mommy their age, or more accepting of single mommy's in their age range.......or single mommy's in your age range must be more accepting of extending the age range of men they will accept. History shows that neither happens.......often that is, so sadly, most women in your age range "Stay" single and raise their child all alone, and I see it happening all over the place. "Eww. Your too old" she will say, and the men she likes will say ".....oh...... you have a kid.......wow look at the time. I have to go." Sorry. People don't seem to change drinking drinking
IN MY PAST I HAVE FOUND THAT IT HAS ALWAYS BEEN A TWO WAY STREET FOR ME. THEIR HAS ALWAYS BEEN IMPROVISION AND CHANGE IN MY RELATIONSHIPS. IT'S WHEN ALL THAT STOPS IS WHEN EVERYTHING IN MY RELATIONSHIPS TEND TO FAIL. SEND ME AN EMAIL IF YOU WANT A NEW FRIEND FOR CHAT ALRIGHT.
it just takes time sometimes conversing
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