The Death Of A Relationship
When a relationship dies we are often left with an extremely lopsided memory picture, almost exclusively negative [although there are also those who enshrine their former mates]. It can seem as if we are the victim of these painful, negative memory pictures. We must identify and complete our relationship to the person as well as our relationship to the pain we generate when we think about or are reminded of the person. And, we must identify and complete our unmet hopes and dreams and expectations.Identifying the painful events is easy and most people get caught in a loop of just repeating the stories over and over. The real key to Moving On, is learning how to complete all those things you’ve discovered and identified as incomplete. It’s not magical, mystical, or difficult.
All you need to do is become willing to re-visit some of the painful events, and communicate what you would have said had you been allowed to, or if you had known how. It may seem frightening to root around where there has been so much pain. As scary as that sounds, it’s a whole lot better than living a life of restriction and limitation caused by staying incomplete, accompanied by the fact that your unfinished emotional baggage will cause major problems in all future relationships.
Many people today talk of giving away your power. There is no clearer or more painful example of that than to have your life's actions and reactions ruled by the painful memories of someone who is no longer involved in your romantic life.
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Dont have to remember bad times or good times that way..