What's up with Good Guy's finish last ?

Good guys finishing last,

hmmmmm...

One of the biggest problems we face today is the blurriness that has become our world. Nothing is clear cut anymore. For instance, who has an accurate definition of what it takes to be a "good guy"? How do I know if I am a "good guy", or a pathetic loser feeling sorry for myself, or just a regular guy not wanting to take his share of the blame for another relationship down the drain. We tend to be so self-centered sometimes (especially when it comes to relationships) that we can only see our side of things. And if we just take a moment to consider the other's point of view, we might see things a little bit differently.

A better question to ask would be: How do I know if I am being a good MAN or WOMAN? Talk about blurry lines! The roles of men and women have never been so debated, or such a mystery. Again it seems as if we only think of ourselves when thinking about these issues. We seem to say "This is what I want to do, and nothing else, because this is who I am. And I cannot, or will not go against who I think I am". We tend to hold on to this idea about ourselves, and forget how different we are now than 10 yrs ago when we though we knew who we were. You are going to change. It's inevitable. Why enter into a relationship refusing to change? Why not find someone with whom you can change?

OK, I got way off the subject.

What happened to Men being strong, and women being beautiful? What happened to men having integrity, being leaders, and women being lovely, being supportive? What happened to both thinking about the other first, and being wise enough to listen to each other. I know so many women are going to say "I can lead as well as any man, why shoud I follow one", or "I don't need a man to take care of me". Doesn't that put you as the most important person in your relationship? Is it any less wrong than a man saying "I am looking for a woman to serve me", or "I want my woman to submit to me". Whenever you put yourself as first, don't you take the first step toward ending that relationship?

I have found, that when I really fall for that special someone, I naturally only think of that person. My personal needs and rights seem to go right out the window. I want that person to be happy above all else. I want to make that person laugh, smile, feel good. I just don't care about myself, except I want to be good for that person. Because of the way I feel about that special someone, I want to be a better person for them. "You make me want to be a better man." I have found that a woman kraves a man that will be a man. Someone in whom they can believe. Someone they can follow. Could a woman give herself totally to man she knows will do his very best (make good decisions, tell her the truth, defend her against any meaning to do her harm including herself, keep his word, work hard, and show her he loves her) for her, and will always put her before himself? I think she could. I think if a man is being a man, taking care of his business and her, a woman will want to follow him.

But it seems that this self centered world says this is not right. "I am more interested in putting myself first."

Isn't the first rule of love putting the other person before yourself?

I guess the only thing I can really do is be a good man, and try to become a great man.

And maybe along the way, I can meet a wonderful lady that would love to share her life with me. And together we can try to out do each other, in making the other as happy as we possibly can be.

Does this have anything to do with the topic? ...I am not sure

Its hard to find that special woman. anything is possible