Becoming A More Successful Online Dater

Make no mistake I am a guy, however what you are about to read works equally as well for men or women. Online Dating is no different than any type of relationship, you get out of it ONLY as much as you are willing to put into it.

I hear all the time from men and women that nobody views their profile. That no one sends them email, or flowers, or ecards. Why?

My basic answer to you is no one knows you’re here. Say if I were to open a really great restaurant up out in the middle of some forest somewhere, and I offered $200.00 cash to the first 500 people that came thru the door, I would never have to pay a penny to anyone because nobody would show up if I didn’t advertise.

It is no different here. You don’t advertise, you don’t get. The more you advertise, look, flower, email or ecard, the more you get in return.

The best way to do this is to do a search in your comfort zone area. This is the area where you feel comfortable driving to for that someone special. Mine is something like 250 miles. Then you find yourself at least 20 possible matches, you visit their profile page to make sure that they are what you are looking for.

Now comes the time to email all 20 of them. What goes into that email we will talk about in a minute.

Face it some will not respond, maybe they have already found someone. Some will come and have a look but will not respond because you may not be right for them in their eyes. But you will eventually get a response. This is why you should set aside a time spot everyday to do this same thing over and over till you get it right.

About the email that you are about to send and this is very important.

The first thing that people look at when they get an email is the subject, be creative.

The second thing they look at is your photo, I personally toss the emails without photos.

The next thing they do is read the email. All email’s should be customized to the person you are writing to. NO ONE EMAIL FITS ALL type of thing. Keep them short but no one liners. Say something about the person, maybe something about their photo or their profile. This actually shows them that you actually took the time to have a look at it.

Leave them wanting to know more about you.

Ok now this part is VERY important, NEVER disqualify yourself in the email. By saying something like I know that I am not your type, but…. This just confirms that you are not their type.

If they like the email, the last thing that they are going to look at is your profile. And I will tell you about that in just a minute.

Now for those of you that have done all that, but still get nothing or are always getting what they don’t want, don’t give up yet. There is still a silver lining in this cloud for you as well.

Women don’t take offense to this cause you know it is true, and this applies to your profiles as well.

A profile should be like a woman’s skirt. If it is too short there is no mystery. If it is too long, nobody is going to look. Those so called cookie cutter profiles suck. Nobody wants to see the same thing everywhere they go. Make it interesting. Nobody is looking for the couch potato type. Don't over sell yourself. Just be yourself.

One last thing. It wouldn’t hurt if you dropped a flower on the people who visited your profile regardless if they send you an email or not. It is a nice gesture and it lets them know that you noticed them. The same applies to those who email you, even if they are not your type.

Together we can make this a greater dating experience for everyone.

I welcome your comments, any questions should be directed to my profile email.

Who knows if this goes well, I may even open up a forum thread just for this topic of discussion.

Thank you very much
The Outlaw Wolf
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