Should learn my lesson ....
It has been months since I meet a buddy of mine, since she has a new man in her life. She has been always busy to meet us, her old friends that others don’t include her in our group anymore. I try to always invite her whenever we have girls’ hang out, but she never attend. Even if she says yes first, she will cancel in last minutes.That’s why am so surprised when she called me last Wednesday for girls’ chat this weekend. She asked me to arrange with the rest of our friends. I called all of them, but they didn’t want to attend and advised me not to come either.
I was feeling sad that our friends have been avoiding her, and she has been in our group since beginning. So I told others that I would go with her.
She called me again last Friday to remind about our girls’ day. She was a bit upset when I told her that others might have other engagements so it would be two of us only. But after I told her that I would go with her, she perked a bit and said that we would have fun.
So Saturday morning, I called her to find out whether she wanted her regular stylist or not. We would have haircut and she always wanted a specific hairstylist for her.
She didn’t answer her phone, so I left her message saying that I have booked her hairstylist for 11 o’clock as we will have lunch afterwards.
She didn’t come for her 11 o’clock hair appointment. Fortunately, another friend of mine came for haircut so the hairstylist didn’t give me evil eye.
She then called me around 12pm saying that she would see me in the afternoon as she had some urgent things to do first. I told her that it might be better to reschedule our girls’ time, but she said she would come this afternoon. My other friend mentioned that she would join her family after lunch, so she couldn’t join in the afternoon.
In the afternoon, my buddy called me to remind me about our appointment. I was feeling bad about doubting her , so I was rushing to the meeting venue. I persuaded 3 friends to go with me.
Guess what ... when we arrived at the dinner venue, she hasn’t arrived yet. After calling her with no response, we waited and waited. Then she sent me texts to start ordering for her too. I ordered her favorite meal, and none for myself as I was still full from huge lunch.
The meal got cold when she finally called, saying that her man would take her out so she couldn’t meet us. My friends were laughing at me so hard that almost everyone else were staring at us at the dinner venue. They told me I was too naive .... Yep, right ... I should learn my lesson.
Comments (8)
Then if the relationship ends, they have lost all their friends because of this.
Most men keep their friends from childhood through the rest of their lives.
I think women should do the same thing and not alienate their friends just because they got into a relationship..Relationships dont always have a happy ending, so why lose friends because you found a man?
It is also common for men to get bored of a woman who has to be with him "all" the time.
Alot of men like their woman to have a life of her own too.
Like I said, men usually keep friends for life unless their buddy tries to score his wife or girlfriend.
I dont understand why so many women get so needy with a man once they get into a relationship.
Needy as in clingy, have to be with that guy 24/7..We all should have a life outside of the relationship..
Then if the relationship ends, they have lost all their friends because of this.
Most men keep their friends from childhood through the rest of their lives.
I think women should do the same thing and not alienate their friends just because they got into a relationship..Relationships dont always have a happy ending, so why lose friends because you found a man?
It is also common for men to get bored of a woman who has to be with him "all" the time.
Alot of men like their woman to have a life of her own too.
Hi Swiss
Actually, as I almost grew up with my buddy, I understood her. She is the person who cannot face confrontation. We, the girls (err women) cannot stand her new man, and vice versa. Maybe his man found out about our "rendevous", that he told her not to meet us
Hi Winha
As her friends, we don't want her having troubles by herself. That's what friends are for ... in bad time and good time
Hi Chris
Yes, I finally do. If she wants to meet us, she should come to the venue first, and orders the food for us