''I Am going to stop searching''
I think that i have really been trying to hard, to find the man of my dreams, it seems that once a woman gets to a certain age, the best looking guys are unavailable to them, and i think that i should not receive any flack about the kind of man i desire to be my significant other! i deleted myself off from one of my sites due to the flack i got accusing me of hating children because i don't have any! and also because i don't feel like i should step in and be a left over! meaning a step parent or grandparent! i am still young and i think that my prince is still out there! so don't accuse me of being shallow or picky! i have a preference as to what i really want my significant to be!i told myself that when i turned fifty, i am not going to have anymore birthdays!i am just going to delete myself from all dating sites!it has been futile in my search since my divorce!i will just have to go it on my own, i watched the dr. phil show about a woman that got herself involved in a scam from online dating! this almost happened to me back in dec of 2007, i thought i had found my mr. right, because he and i had common interests and we clicked right away! let me tell you all now! love sucks because it does not exists the way you dream it to be! it comes to some but not to all!
and don't preach to me either!i have been full up with sermons since my divorce and self help groups too!
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But I do feel sorry for you. Anyone who feels that being a step parent or a grand parent becomes a "leftover" is absolutly astounding. The majority of men are going to have children you know. And honestly, if you can look at their child and see a piece of the man you love...how can that be a bad thing?
I DO understand not wanting to start over with babies crawling all around the place. But it does sound like you don't want anyone competing with you for his attention.
Sigh....Let me put it to you this way.....A man who is a father, a daddy, has activly participated in his childs life.....will be a MUCH more loving and caring man than someone who has never raised children.
You may want to re-think your stance. You may be missing out of some really good stuff.
Just my opinion.
And I don't want to date a man who is too much younger than me. Younger guys know nothing about things that I know and love from my past.
And yes, the dating sites are full of men looking for a free ride or worse.
Be glad you have you, because that's what counts!!!
You love you and thats what needs to happen.
Last year I could have written your blog. I took a "dating-sabottical". I refused to date for one whole year--no matter what. For just one year, I promised myself that I would focus on everything about me and my relations with non-suitors.
I learned a lot about myself and I changed how I felt about dating, men, myself, my job, my family, married people, single people, divorce, kids, EVERYTHING.
I don't know if that sort of thing would be right for you; but it taught me to pitty the people that give me flack for wanting my life a way I wanted it.
They need the help. They have their own life to live.
As for me? I've given myself permission to date again, (leave my sobatical) but I'm not in a hurry to do so. When it comes up and is right, I will. But I'm certainly not going to go looking. (I come here to blog and make friends-first and foremost. Note I don't even post a picture). The big lesson that I needed to learn was s that I am Extreemely happy being single (although I never wanted to be single).
There may not be a cinderellas castle; but I made a JAM castle. There might be a amber-castle in the making......
Don't isolate yourself from folks that support YOU. I'll be in your corner.
JAM