feeling pressured at the age of 27.
Me and my Mum had a talk and obviously the first thing she wants to know is about my love-life.
she was asking me when am i planning to get married and have baby. She's getting worried that i would end up being single all my life. I can't also blame her cause our culture says that if you're not yet married when you reach 30, then you would have a lesser chance of getting married or you would have lesser value to guys. 
The average age that a woman should get married here is around 25 to 27 years old. And she thinks that I'm at the right age already.
I cant believe my mum thinks that I'm getting old for marriage. I actually feel like i have just turned 16, just starting to create my own adventures. I think i would need to do a lot of explaining to her and to let her understand that the world is changing and that her beliefs from her generation is different from my generation. I just hope she would stop worrying about me, my love-life and my biological clock.
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Your story sounds so much like many of my friends here in Indonesia. At the age of 23, they are already concerned if they don't have boyfriends. As they get close to 30 (27 - 30), their worries increased cos of pure pressure from their mothers. Once they finally get married, more pressure to have a baby as soon as possible - the quicker, the better.... I guess it is just part of the culture....
blas you got it right.
RDM she's a widow. You look like you can be a great step father.
i would say enjoy your life, live your life and settle down when your ready
there is no real rush, i had my first child when i was 21, my last child when i was 33 and i felt more relaxed and more confident as a older mum x
RDM thanks and its fine, i know you would not throw a joke if you knew it. :)
recently i've read one wise thing,
every woman after her 40 can conceal her age just until her kids are 16-20, its unreasonable to do it any longer, facts are stubborn
try to assure ur mom in that.
take care.
oly thanks will do
dont be in rush, enjoy yourself do the things you want to to
life is to short to worring about your biological clock.
I had big pressure to marry by the time I finished High School and look what happened? Yep, I married mr wrong..
No sense in rushing things, if you find a good man, take a little time to see how things go..