Is there anyway to get an ex out of your head?

Recently split from me gf, we were 4 yrs together and things were not right for along time so we ended t but I think about her all the time and need to stop because I'm not eating or sleeping because I totally fell in love but now I want to move on with my life and find the woman who's right for me so hw can I move on?

I've heard the old cleshes find a new girl, take time out, etc but I need a solution now that works immediately
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beer is your med son ..... experience talkin ...
Tried dat didn't wrk
For me, I got a peaceful feeling after I met my ex yesterday and listened to him confessing everything he did while we were together .. I know now that he didn't deserve my love in the first place, and I allowed that relationship to continue because I was in denial and wanted that relationship to work out so bad .. Take your time and think of all the things you offered in that relationship, and ask yourself "Did I deserve being treated that way?" ..
Hobby, where u interact with new faces.
Try to think about something bad about them..laugh
Hmmmmmm , u still love her. Not easy to come out of this actuallyprofessor

Really wanna move on with ur life.......just stop thinking abt her, specially when alone. engage ur mind smwhere else. It'll be difficult in the begining , no doubt, but it'll really work.

wave
best way to get over someone is by getting under another batting only joking of course but i couldnt resist that giggle having a falling in love at first experience worked wonders for me.. because of it' i never looked back at a maybe loss instead i looked forward to a maybe gain heart wings
oops meant to say.. falling in love at first SIGHT experience conversing
TTT is the answer.....This Takes Time
Otherwise, do things that you like doing and stop feeling sorry for yourself (that helps - from experience)!
Hey Darren wave I feel your pain, I sacrificed everything to move in order to be with my ex, only to find out he wasn't what he seemed. A year on, an songs on the radio still remind me of him an it hurts like hell but I know he was no good for me.

There's no quick fix I'm afraid. But meeting someone else, even going on an odd date does help. Other than that, try an find something that'll take up your time. Thanks to my ex, I'm now fit from joining the gym and I've re-decorated the house and the garden's never looked better laugh anything to take my mind off him!

Eventually, the pain gets less and less, there really is no quick fix - sorry comfort teddybear
I'm sorry you are going through a difficult time.
What helped me was to spend time with friends, engage in my favorite hobbies, exercise.... When those pesky thoughts would emerge in my head I'd focus on the negative rather than dwell on the positives...
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I want to thank every1 for your comments.. Yes I'll struggle on my heart is broken but hopefully some girl can mend my heart bcos alone I am struggln! I go out every fri sat and sun but that ain't helping. I was hoping to meet someone ere but no1 wants to get to know me or give me a chance.

I know she never loved me and dealing with that is hard. I know she deserves alot better than me and hopefully I can find what I'm looking for. Hopefully tonite is good to me I lack charisma and charm but I can dance lol

Thanks ppl x
Darren, if you want to find someone special, first of all, stop complaining, and secondly, don't talk all the time about your ex. Better overcome her and then search for something serious. I don't know about other women, but I'd never be with some man to "heal" him from his Great Love!
Good luck! comfort
every one is different ,and the length of time it takes us to get over someone we have loved ,is anywhere from 5 minutes to 5 years , it just depends on how much emotional hurt you are going through ..

its just like as if she had died , good things take time to get over , and in time ,women around you will know , you are single again and as long as you dont go on and on about your ex , you will get laid again and again til you are ready to be with someone again

or get a yacht and go sailing

banana
Talk to your friends, socialize with them, have a night out of partying and on top of all KEEP BUSY...once you are busy, busy, busy, your mind drifts away from your ex.....teddybear
Darren I know how you are feeling
I still think about him & even cry

I keep busy but things keep reminding me of him & the thing is eventually you'll think less & less of her & some women will make you forget...in a good way.

Time heals...some of us take lomger than others. When you love someone you never forget sometimes its something about them.

Love hurts but it also feels good at the same time...hurt as in heartbreak. Love will find you & you'll be ready...with arms wide open to embrace a new love. hug
In New Zealand they get an EX out of their head by firmly gripping the handle with both hands and giving a sharp tug.wow
Are we talking booze or sheep there part?rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
There is no immediate solution to this AGE OLD PROBLEM....What U have to do is change up, and start slowly...All the old things U use to do together, stop doing them alone. Get out of the house, get plenty of exercise. Call out the boys, this is when U really need your friends, and U should let them know U need them. Don't start up with another WOMAN right away, give yourself some time, the last thing U need is to try and replace her with another. Either nothing will compare to her, or she will end up being your rebound girl...Nobody needs that. Hope this works for U and good luck to U.comfort comfort comfort wave sad flower
I know how painful this is and I have no quick fix for you but, there is some good news - it DOES get better :)

You know that you broke it off for a reason,many reasons in fact. Whenever you find yourself missing her just mentally list the various reasons that led to you parting ways. There are good memories of course and you should not banish those but remind yourself that the good times were not enough to prevent you from going your separate ways. You still love her and of course you do; she probably still cares tonnes about you too. Having reminded yourself of why you are not good for each other wish her lots of happiness and send her loads of love and move on to other thoughts or better still do something fun.

What we really really miss most when we break up is the sense of companionship - we miss our partner in crime so to speak. Take this opportunity to fill in that gap by reinforcing family ties and spending more time with friends and colleagues. Engage in social events and try some volunteering too.

You will be fine, just give yourself some time..
All things worth having take time to accomplish. I found that each time I got hurt when a relationship ended, that I had to reach deep down inside and find the energy necessary to get up and get on with my life. It can be done -- but each time it will get a little harder.

Have a support network of people you trust and can turn to. People who will listen and be non-judgmental.

Time will heal all wounds.
My suggestion is, create a new memory, If you don't have a girl to move on with than A meaningless night or weekend of good clean fun can really wash away some of that hurt. I wish I was clever enough to take my own advice but where I live it is so hard to find a GF or even a one night stand...and I've not really been one for those, but I think it would help. I had people tell me to get drunk and I agree that is just not for me. But I do think once "you", meaning anyone,,me included realizes that there really is another, than you will feel much much better. not to be blunt but go get yourself laid man. I hope you already have and that you are doing better.
Good Luck.
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