So what makes you think you are worthy of a relati
I’m not interested that you are honest, fun loving, caring or funny…. everybody is, what’s important is the amount of “baggage” you bring to the relationship. Will I have to put up with your daughter ruling your life, will I be required to “fit in” to your extended family, will I have to accept second best to your career or your buddies or because you are fanatic about a certain sport?What are you willing to sacrifice to be loved, to have someone care for you more than they care for themselves, to stand by your side offering encouragement and support when the going gets tough, to be happy for you when you celebrate the good times.
How important to you is the word “togetherness”
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You can not expect anyone to change their lives or who they are to make someone else happy, you chose to be with someone for who they are, not what they do, how their children are or who their faimily are, you take on a person you take on everything that is them and that includes family, friends, children, baggage etc.
If you are lucky enough to find unconditional love then you hang on to it.
Hold tenderly that which you cherish
what if sumth is gonna other way? what if a woman wants to insert YOU (or a part of you) in her life? what kinda baggage are you ready to leave at the dock, am sure not ur daughter or ur career.
I give my children rules and structure but they ALWAYS come first. The fact that I am there for my family should be a sign to a man that I have integrity and substance. If he cannot see this , I do not need him in my life.
I see the fear of the woman's "baggage" as unwillingness of the man to take responsibility (not in the literal sense that I would want him to spend money for my children or to take care of my parents etc). Also, as a lack of real interest, respect and love.
One kind of a "baggage" I wouldn't accept though: if the man hasn't overcome some ex. I wouldn't bring such a baggage either. So this would be my sacrifice
If we are human beings we will have some sort of "baggage"....even those wonderful, flawless men do!!
I have experiences when I had known the man for weeks/months and he never asked for example about my children or family or what I feel, think, need...
Not to mention that they didn't want any "drama", so when I mentioned something like my son's surgery or my mother being mentally ill I could see their faces getting distracted and them changing the subject.
At the same time they expect to be cheered up with or without any need...
I can't get the ones who dont wanna know the woman.
Lack of vison, securety and beliefe in the power of love.
Stuff that can make a new relationship empty the bag.. and refill it with goodies
Very , very wise words!!
Especially if a man expects their girlfriend or wife to "work", but then later complaines that her work is keeping her from being able to drop everything and go on a vacation or be spontaneious.. How can he expect her to hold a decent job if hes more concerened about her being able to be spontaneous and or keep a house as clean as better homes and gardens show?
Sometimes people have too high of expectations out of a mate and are not able to see their own faults.