Q:How to say no to a guy without hurting him??
ermmm, so, a boy asked me out but im not interested in him,how can i say no but not hurt him too much and still be friends???To be honest to myself ..... it's going to hurt him no matter what i say.
Should i just say "I'm sorry I don't feel the same way about you, I see you as a friend and value that friendship.
And then there is the most simple thing that i can say. "Let me think about it" That usually works and then he probably won't ask again.
:
confused!!!
Comments (48)
I see you as a friend and value that friendship.
For me, a simple "I'm not interested. Thank you for your interest" would do fine .. sure enough I'd be sorry bout it but I love it honest and blunt!
as if he is in a movie scene all the time!!
-and what u think he's personalety might reacts best on.
So if its a "hotshot" sms him.
If its a frind in a group you are in, and he migh loose face and gets depressed i'd say sth like:
"im not intrested in that BUT, i have another request for you: im taking a walk tonite and like it very much if you'd join me and we can talk about life and death and the best beer in town. What u say?"
A third option is walk up to him from kinda nowhere and say friendly: hay got time to talk? And u take a little walk and tell stright away "im flattered by your offer, but im gonna decline." And when he says "why" u answer "not cos ur not great cos u truly are, but not for me". If one more argument from him u say: "but u see i dont have the hots for you, and then it would be wrong of me to say yes to you".
Calling i dont believe in. Sms, mail or meet. Only call if u wanna ask him out for a walk.
It deps abit on what kind of contact u want with him later.
If he after all is distant, then send it in writing.
If he asked u face to face u have to tell him face to face also.
Morgster.
letters ---i wish i could do that, but personally if it happens to me i wont like a breakup letter..
Morgster.---i think i better face him:)
Stright hounesty if he is a hint-none-accepter..
No dubt must be in him after it.
So if u can do it gracefully, with a stright back, and still throw in some humor and wormth (its almost how one treat a child u know.. , cos he sounds like a kid)...
Good luck! We are cheering for you from over here
at cs (we want u instead.. ) kidding!
Haha, just reminded me of a song: /Stand up for your love rights/...haha...lets see if i can find it at youtube...
sec...yea here:
who we consider a friend,consider this too, he well go by Your tone of voice more than the actual words you use
Honestly now, why people tent to take a YES for granted and NO for a disaster ? I will never ever understand that
you may cancel my comment if it's unappropriated. sorry for the inconvenience i will keep myself out next time
Just hope he is not in the egoist category
honestly even i dnt know why do people take No----so negatively....
your genetically genius--- i think ...thank you....
i am on for this line:P:grin: