Makes & Breaks of a relationship

This is a small idea of what I think makes & breaks a relationship.
To start out with there has to be a strong physical attraction. It is usually the "looks" of a person that catches your attention. Not always though. Sometimes it can be the way a person handles themselves in certain situations, the way they speak, even the way they carry themselves.

You have to be good friends before you can be good partners. Too many people get attracted to one another & jump right into a relationship without really knowing each other. You have to take the time to get to know one another to find out if the compatibilty is there. You do not want to end up with someone that you love to look at, but can not stand to be around because of incompatibility.

Too many people focus on the exterior & fail to look at what is inside. If this is all they care about, they should just remain single & have one night stands, because they will probably never find compatible partner for a couple of reasons.
1. There is always going to be better looking than what they have & will never be happy, because they will always be looking around the corner for the next best thing.
2. They will not be able to be with the person that they are with because of indifferences.

There has to be communication & understanding in a relationship. Both parties should be quick to talk about any arising problems. Both should also be able to listen & try to understand the problems. The key is to not always think that you are right, but try to work out a solution together as a team.(Because you love one another & wish to stay together.) It is this that most times causes people to split, cheat, lie, & violence within a relationship. You can not let indifferences buid up & destroy your relationship.
People have to remain being whom they were in the beginning of the relationship & not be forced into becoming someone that they do not want to be.

Honesty is a must, you must always be honest for the simple reason that you would want your mate to be honest with you. It is a respect thing.

Caring is also another must, you have to make time to listen to what is important to your mate. If you stop showing that you care, at the very least they will have a problem with it. They may even start looking elsewhere for someone that does care. You have to show & tell that you care.

You have to be loving towards your mate. It is just common sense that if your mate kisses you, you should kiss back. Also take the time to initiate the kisses. It is the simple little gestures that add up to make a big differences. To be continued.....