Anything to be Loved...

At what point does love of oneself manifest itself?
I really don't think I've ever had that, and I know that if I did, I wouldn't be feeling like such a useless person.
I love to help people, as much as I possibly can, but I had a friend tell me that I never really do anything to help myself.
Is it wrong to want to help others more than yourself?
And once you've come to that conclusion, how does one go about actually loving thyself?

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Honey,you will find love.Your still so young.When you find it,don't let it go.When you get older,its hard to find love.I was like you at one time.I was a giver,and they where takers.They almost took everything from me.I still have myself to count on for everything.Good luck,to you.
Take a look at this from a different perspective, from the perspective that the person who wrote it values the things they are looking for in another. She values them because those are qualities that she herself has in abundance and wishes to share with others:

"I ask that there is similarity to myself, ... I'm looking for someone that's passionate, honest, humble, caring, enjoys life, kind, is patient, tolerant, dependable, and has a dynamic personality"

See, that wasn't so hard, was it?

Chris
Hello Electricalstar,
My name is Shawn.
I read your blog and had to reply because it really hit home for me.
You sound like a younger version of my self.

(At what point does love of oneself manifest itself?)

There is a difference between arrogance and pride. Love for oneself comes when you can be truly proud of who you are, what dreams you strive to achieve, and what you'll stand up against to defend what you feel is right.

(Is it wrong to help others more than yourself?)

It's never wrong to desire to help others. The trick is to give selflessly and not to become to co-dependent.

(And once you've come to that conclusion, how does one go about actually loving oneself?)

You can't truly love someone else unless you first love yourself. You can't take care of others unless you first take care of yourself. And you can't give advice and expect others to follow it unless you lead by example and take your own advise.

Be proud of who you are. If you want to truly help other people find happiness, show them the way.

I don't expect this reply to solve your problem, I just ask that you really ponder on these things. After all, It is always easier to give advise to others then it is to give to yourself.

Best wishes,
Shawn
In my view, it's difficult if not impossible to be effective at helping others if you cannot be a model that the receiver of your help can aspire to.
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