How should I tell her ?
Me and my friend went for dinner yesterday. The waitress who served us is quite old and slow. I don't mind as we have plenty of time to wait. But my friend keeps on calling her to be fast and she used harsh tone. While ordering, she also asked to many things such as, not too much water, extra spices ..blah blah.. blahI can see the waitress was upset and rushed to get things done for her. I wish I could tell my friend to be patient but I also respect her feeling.
The waitress age is close to my mum's. At that moments, I imagine if my mother were working like that,will she be treated like that ? I pretend I didn't look at the waitress as I couln't take my friend behaviour.
I know being confident and firm is good but in this situation ? NOOOO
Actually, my friend is nice person but the way she carries herself sometimes too smug,hursh and cut !
I got embarassed whenever people yelled at her. Just like that day when my friend asked for direction and the person she asked had difficulty in explaining, she cut him off, " Okay , Okay I will look my self, turn here and there , what is that ?"
How should I tell her ? I don't want to lose our friendship. But how nice if she can be more considerate to other especially the one more older than us?.Seeing eldery working so hard is bad enaugh. Why must we adding more to their burden ? Ohhhh ..
Comments (26)
You should have made your friend aware of her behaviour & your feelings. Criticism will never hurt a good friendship!
On the other hand, being a yesman (yes lady in your case); doesn't abode well for your character either - you will allow your friends to walk all over you & that happens. The circumstances may differ but there you are, silently accepting the events & situations.
That makes you guilty by association!
Be your own person & hold your head high; walk your own path in life!
Attitudes like that are not called for especially with the way she was treating the old lady at the restaurant. If I were there, I bet you I'll tell her right into her face.
Indeed, people will judge from what they have seen. I will tell her and if she angry however, it might not be long I hope
Livinginhope,
Yes, this precisely I wanted to tell to change her way towards others. It won't be nice to have seen onlookers raised their eyebrow. I know it is unacceptable to treat eldery like that eventhough she comes from broken family. Yes, I will speak to her with love in the sake of friendship.Thanks
Thanks , I will speak with so much love
If I kick her butt, she will pull my hair
Beautie, how are you? I hope all great with you!
Amia, your friend is sure nice girl, just inexperienced, beautiful young and strong lady. She has no life experience which make us all ... okay nearly all
She needs to catch a point through personal experience - like you, through her Mom or Aunt... she will understand, I am sure.
Or ask her about her feelings somebody would treat her in similar way...
Good Luck Beautie
Thanks , I am okay
Yes, she is a nice person and helpful sometimes.
It is her personal problem that get better of her. She will be fine. Even if she angry, I will still say Hi
Ami Achmadi....
I am Ami Achmadi. Family and friends call me Ami
Glad to be here and I found more friends
have a lovely evening!
I adore your sensitivity and caring, love your insightful perception, and tremble with delight over your kindness and humanity. Truly, you would make the ideal bride, and partner
for life!
Then you added this comment:
"I know it is unacceptable to treat eldery like that eventhough she comes from broken family."
...and another about her personal problems overtaking her behaviour in other areas.
Her self-esteem and her feelings of being in control of her own life may be damaged by her unpleasant experiences. If you confront her directly about her behaviour, I agree with an earlier poster, she may become defensive in order to protect her already damaged self-esteem.
I think you need to ask her what is making her so unhappy that she is taking it out on people who haven't been the cause of her unhappiness. Focus on her healing, rather than her faults. The faults will sort themselves out as she heals.
Thanks, it sounds very wise. Yes, she needs someone who helps her to heal. Thus, I must not hurt her further However, she must realise what is really happening around her too that she is not alone.