Destined for Solitude?

You're doing ok.

I got married at 23.5 years of age and the marriage lasted 10 years; she wasn't the first love of my life but a good woman - however, I should have realised after three weeks it wasn't going to work. You're lucky it only lasted a few months if it wasn't meant to be!

I've been married and divorced now three times - you can say that I'm a failure in relationships, but then you could also say I should have given up and died years ago - NO WAY!

Love is an extraordinary thing. It takes some of us decades to find the right person - or for ourselves to change into being the right person to attract and find the right person.

Suffering is part of life. We ALL suffer - whether we appear to have everything possible in life like some spoilt Paris Hilton, or are brought up in real poverty.

What makes us different is how we cope with suffering - and there is no worse mental suffering for a man to have lost a woman he really loves.

Try not to blame yourself or the woman you have lost. Try and accept that it just 'wasn't meant to be'.

Relax.

Life is good.

You shall know love again.

You have nothing to fear and nothing to feel really angry and bitter about.

Good luck!

You know, I am starting to think that anyone looking for a long lasting serious relationship is in the same boat!!! Those of us that know we want to find a long lasting love look and look in every nook and cranny but unfortunately, it will happen when we are able to handle it and not before.

I think you are very lucky that you found love once, you will find it again. I can only cross my fingers it will happen for me! Don't give up!

i have nothing to add to what was written before me but here's a hug now you have to feel better

P.S.nobody is destined for solitude...is just sometimes circumstances are against us but THAT is only temorary, don't forget that,ok?:)

take care and be patient

In time you will find love don't doubt though sometimes I know it is truly hard to. I too found love did not take it to marriage but I know I love him and I always will to a point. He is still one of my best friends and would not change it for the world! I learned from that it is about being mature and realizing that what is meant to be will be and what is not won't, to be able to find yourself again after being a half of a whole! The odd thing is so much strength is gained in that! Keep faith!

God Bless Ya,

Lora