For Elaboration Please

"A woman marries a man expecting him to change, but he doesn't. A man marries a woman expecting her not to change....she does!"

I am not married yet. Hopefully in the near coming years. Since I have marriage in mind, would you generous bloggers help me understand more about this thing (qoute above). Thanks.

Happy Saturday to ALL!lips
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Thanks for answering my questions Ateh. hug
Faith, Hi!

Yeah, I do remeber the Vietnamese wedding you blogged. Lovely story.

Nah, I'm not getting married asap. Few more years maybe. And I want my wedding to be in my hometown for me and my family to witness and share my happiness with. A lady can still dream, right? grin
@shay
dont fool yourself dear.
it's an ilussion ,noone changes and u can not change ur partner male or female. the best u can get trying to change him/her , is somehow minimizing the disadvantages of their characters wave
Not fooling myself here Blue. Not that I know of. Just trying to lay some questions and eventually generate some good answers to feed my little curious mind. innocent
shay, I have heard it many times but I prefer to keep in mind that it's only a joke...a cynical joke grin

Don't worry about it hug teddybear
Lachi, no worries. I am still thinking of marrying in the future. Time will tell. bouquet
Marriage???!!!! YIKES!!!! Why must you mention that word?? lol help grin
@shay
its the greatest mistake men and women make ,when they r related to someone.believing they can change those two or three disavadages on him/her.
u have to accept ur partner as he/she is , if u dont , its gonna be a mistake having a relationscold wave
Hi, Shay. since Marlene shared hers, I'd like to tell a bit of mine too. Most J wives are stay at home wives minding the children, the home and finances. When Jmen married a foreigner, they expect the same thing. Me, being the breadwinner in the family went a lot of trouble to the extent of nearly divorcing him within a year of marriage. Imagine my first experience of living abroad, marrying a man I hardly know, being in a foreign land with a very foreign language and tradition. He was expecting me to adjust but he never did his part. And that quote says .....expecting... may mean a hint of pressure. A relationship with pressure won't last. A relationship that continously needs to please won't last. And as Ed says change will come naturally esp if it's coupled with love. Just accept him for what he is and if you're lucky and accepted you as you are then you are destined to be truly happy. I just wish the same for me too. I just remember another quote. Inaasahan daw ng mga lalaki na sila ang naka una sa mga napangasawa nila while the women daw ay umaasa na sila na ang last woman sa buhay ng kanilang mga asawa. Ang panahon ay nagbabago. Aslong as both parties are willing to try and make it work, the hell with those quotes. And as one commenter asked, who made those quotes anyway? Good luck for your search and to Marlene good luck too.bouquet
Robrt, LOL, Why no mention of the word MARRIAGE? Are we allergic to its sound? laugh


BluePeh, carefully noting in my "keeping in mind" book the things you pointed. Thank you again. handshake
Tatami, Thank you for sharing your story.

I can imagine the feeling when you first came to Japan to live with your Japanese husband. Leaving behind what you have used to in our home country. You sacrificed and compromised for a new life. I wish I have all your courage to take those steps also when the time will finally happen for me. And hopefully my future partner will have the effort and also will do his part in making our partnership works.

Tungkol po dun sa sinasabi mo pong qoute, naku, bagsak na po ako doon... Medyo may makabago na akong paraan na naadopt. If ever po di man ako matanggap ng kung sino man na lalaking darating dahil ganito ako, totoo nga po, 'di po siya ang para talaga sa akin. Salamat po ng marami.

Goodluck to you also for your search for the destined someone. Again thanks po sa share.
@tatami wave
Thank you.Happy Easter bunny bunny teddybear
Good luck to you hug
Al, thanks for you comment.

One thing I would say, no you are not crazy. You are intelligent beyond my depth. 'Though I will tell you honestly some of your blog topics are too deep that I cannot even comprehend as I am only an average minded woman. But I always do appreciate your inputs on my blogs.

Thanks Al. Happy Easter weekend to you. teddybear
Ateh Marlene, wave hug
My EX expected me to change and i changed her instead.cheers
It´s a big mistake trying to change the partner.
Boy, thanks. beer

Mysticalli, thanks you. bouquet
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