The Wound of Love part 1
this is the ideal.as you will notice,
none of us can even come close.
it is from my great teacher Adi Da Samraj
this is only an excerpt
The Wound of Love
True Intimacy Replaces The Motive Of egoic Independence and The Psychology Of Ownership (Of one's intimate partner, or partners, or Even one's children) With The Practice Of self-Transcending Love and The Heart-Culture Of (Most Fundamental) self-Understanding and Happy self-Discipline In Relationship To one's intimate partner (or partners), one's Total family (and Community), and all other beings.
True Intimacy Is A Cooperative Union Between individuals whose Commitment To one another Is Based On A Spiritual (and, Ultimately, Transcendental, and Divine) Intention That Is Freely, Directly, and Fully Expressed Through the emotional-s*xual character of each partner.
True Intimacy Is Not A Matter Of self-Indulgence and conventional self-Fulfillment.
True Intimacy Requires (or Always Calls For) Real and Steady Relinquishment Of egoic Independence, or all egoically "self-Possessed" demands, expectations, and complaints, all rituals of rejection, mistrust, and reactivity, and all strategies of depression, pleasurelessness, and promiscuity.
As A Natural Means To True Intimacy, the partners In Love Are Required (or Always Called) To Incarnate The Two Primary Signs (or Complementary and Polar Opposite Aspects) Of The Divine and Universal Natural Dynamic Of Life.
Therefore, the masculine partner Is Required (or Always Called) To Submit himself To Incarnate (or Extend) The Divine Husbanding (or Conserving) Power (or To Practice The True Man's Yoga) Through Steady Control (or Right Directing) Of the energy and attention of himself and his feminine partner, and By Constantly Arousing (In himself and In his feminine partner) The Motive Of Right Restraint, Right Intention, and Right Use Of human energy and attention.
And the feminine partner Is Required (or Always Called) To Submit herself To Incarnate (or To Extend) The Divine Goddess-Power (or To Practice The True Woman's Yoga) Of Attraction, self-Submission, and Nurturing, By Constantly Feeding her masculine partner With The Life-Power Of her personal energy and attention, and By Constantly Arousing The Motive Of Heart-Submission and Heart-Radiance In herself and In her masculine partner.
The emotional-s*xual ego Constantly Hunts For an other. The ego-"I" (or self-Contraction) Hunts (or Seeks) an other (Even all others and The Total Objective Cosmos) In Order To Be Gratified, Consoled, and Protected. The Compulsive Hunting (or Search) For an other Is Generated By The Feelings Of Un-Happiness, Emptiness, and Separateness That Possess and Characterize the self-Contracted being. Once an other Is Found, the ego-"I" Clings To the other, At First pleasurably, and Then Aggressively.
The ego-"I" Depends On the other For Happiness, and, Over time, the ego-"I" Makes Greater and Greater Demands On the other For Fulfillment Of itself (In all of its desires). Often, In time, the other Becomes Depressed and Exhausted By This Demand (and Thus Leaves, or Dies).
Just As Likely, the ego-"I" Discovers, Over time, That the other Cannot or Will Not Satisfy The Absolute Demand For attention and Consolation. In That Case, the ego-"I" Feels Betrayed, and the ego-"I" Begins The Strategy Of Punishing, Rejecting, and Abandoning the other. Every conditionally Manifested being Has (In time) Often Been The Proposed Victim Of This Strategy Of Separate and Separative selves.
The egoic (or self-Contracted) individual Is (By Virtue Of his or her History, self-Idea, and Lack Of Spiritual, Transcendental, and Divine Realization) Chronically Bound To The Ritual Of Rejection. The emotional (or emotional-s*xual) Career Of egoity Tends To Manifest As A Chronic Complaint That Always Says, By Countless Means, "You Do Not Love me."