I`m back!
Hi to all bloggers! After a long absence I`m back here again. It was hard time for me. I struggled with cancer and I have my small victory. Now I have to go to the lsst treatment to be total cured.But a man who was with me and with whom I intended to built my new life surprised me that he stopped love me cause my illnes.
So I try to underdtand him, but pls friends, tell me what you think about this situation? Would you stop loving someone so easily, just because he is seriously ill?! Or it was not real love?
honestly I think I could not never do the same. But who knows!
Maybe I`m wrong!
So if you want let talk about such a situations in our life. I really need to talk with someone about this. maybe I changed my mind because of the illnes and can`t understand a ppl around me?
Or........
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But Cheer up now as a friend of mine says to me when I'm Down... Gone Now!!!
I had the same situation with you for almost a year now, struggled with cancer too, but now I'm healthy. And for almost a year too, the man that I met here always beside me, never leave me. Even I asked him several time to leave me cause I'm afraid my illness become worst.
And in your situation, I can think 2 reasons. One, he love you but he is afraid to get hurt and not ready if something worst happen. The other reason, he is not really love you. I guess, my point here, his love not strong enough for you.
Hope all the best for your health
As for your gentleman friend I think its quite common that people don't have the inner strength to love someone thru an illness. To watch them be sick, to watch them suffer and it is in their minds not what they bargained for. I would hope that if this man ever marries that he would not leave his wife if she fell ill with cancer. There is no guarantee in life how long someone will be in our lives and if love is real it should be cherished.
Right now just work on getting your health back. When this man decides to check on you later and finds you are energetic and vibrant again you can kick him to the curb!
I have cancer too but it is stabilized and I feel real healthy. It took me a couple of years after may last treatment but I'm good!
I don't think this man was serious about having a relationship. And absolutely nothing against you. But many people abandon their interest with a woman cancer victim especially if she had to have a mastectomy. Pretty bad but pretty common.
I do not want to judge this man, but rather to understand his motives. Because everyone has a choice in life, although sometimes their choices hurt people close to us.
But now I`m here and be so happy to see all of you again. cause I enjoy of our conversation here every time ( before and now )
The closest I get is Feeling Peeved over the Silliest of things!! But Good Honest Friend can be a Godsend and always pull You Through!!!
Please Send a Nurse I think I'm starting to Feel Pawry!!! ERR! Poorly!!!
As I already told I don`t want judje this man. probably he has his seriose reasons for his decision, but it hurted to hear such a words from the man who you believe from whole my heart all the time.
We should be thankful for each beautiful day in this world, then God will help us in our fight like HE helps me now in my personal fight.
I have canser on my tongue and my neck, not the best place for easy treatment, but now I redused one of the tumors near 90% and hope to do the same but 100% with all others in next 2 months.
Virgo, dear! nice tio see you again too!
What`s with your boat? Are you finish? I envy you so much cause all my life an ocean was and will stay my great love!
One of my dreams is to live on a boat!
I have to do this!
I know I should focus on my tratment now but he accused me that I`m sellfish and I can`t accept this. in whole my life he is the first who told me i1m sellfish. Of course I1m not angel but this is the last thing for which I may be accused I think.
I know how dificult is for all ppl around me to see all this and he has too many other commitments around my treatment. I appreciate this and I'm infinitely grateful to him for everything he does for me! Just because of this I try to understand him in his decisions and and do not blame him lightly. But it hurts to hear such a words, especially in my position in the moment
And don`t forget a bottle of champagne for the dedication!!!!!
We all must try to be better persons and to try to understand and accept others even when we don`t fully agree with them. Cause the illnes help me to open my eyes about a lot of new things and I1m sure thattThe more we love ppl around us, the more people will get them even more. And hate and negativism can only destroy us. Let's try to avoid bad people and ignore attempts to confront the extent possible. Will surely make the world around us much more pleasant to live in, if we can reduce negative emotions in yourself! It just came into my head just if someone is startled by bartvezhite me, it's because this is 4:50 in the morning!
After the treatment was finished I visited the treatment room and would give pep talks!
Yeppers! Gotta go with what you got!!!!
One smile is enough ...... We all need to receive and to give happiness ......
And I don`t know but this illness changed me too much. Now I understood how pointless was all those pursuit of money and power at all times in last 20 years in my life! All this years are missed years unfortunately!
But now I`m hsppy cause better latter thasn never. So I became a unique chance to change my life for better! Thanks God!
And all this because I never gave upq even for a moment, even when I cried I beleived that I will survive. To be positive is very important for all ppl with casncer.
Thank you!
I made an enquiry about your absense about two months ago.....I did notice your absence...Am sorry to hear about your health -
I can't pass comment on the said gentleman, unfortunately.......don't know anything about him but best get it out of your mind. You will need to use your mind's full 100% capabilities to fight the sickness.
All the best.....
How could I forget you! Of course I did not do that! Nice to see you again! And thanks for all nice words! Of couirse I will be cure very soon, nevertheless all troubles around me! I was and I will stay all my life a real fighter! This is my nature and noone can change it! And about this man, actualy he is not guilty about anything. Just his nature is this!
I really happy to be back and meet all you!
My impression is that the man in question supported you all the time and I am surprised to hear he gives it up! Human nature is a complex thing and especially men are usually weaker than women when there are health problems. As it was said here, maybe he s afraid that he ll be hurt again? Or maybe something in the way he feels towards you has changed, not directly connected with the illness but with all the stress about it? Or he got it earlier but says it now when you feel better... We can t predict things and especially feelings...
The great thing is you both had the courage to take the chance to be together. I think you had his support all this time. And now don t take this dramatically. You need a new start anyway... in everything. Good luck and stay strong and positive!
A!s I said before I do not blame him but I'm trying to figure it out. Cause after all his support he just decided very easily to leave me and this is some I can`t connbect with some reeal feelings. Maybe he just tryed to be brave from the beginning but after he unbdeestand that all was only one grand illusion!
And I hope that he will be now much more calm and happy with his new love. There are too many feminine externalities all the time we were together!
Now you need to concentrate on yourself and not to lose strength for outside stuff. Leave the bitterness and self-pity if there is any, and love yourself with double strength. I firmly believe that every one we meet in our life brings some message to us and has some role in our life. Just be sure that you will meet your man at the right moment. Get better soon and never lose faith!
nice to see you again! Honestly I dont complaining but rather share with you because I can not fathom the reasons for this decision. But it doesnt matter cause all is finished and decision is made.
We just need to take different paths....
Nice flowers! Thank you!
Ariel, I certainly will need to go, at least for my daughter who is 22 and still needs me! Nevertheless Im so tired to be dissapointed again and again in my relationships. probably there are some big mistake in me, in my way to choose my partners.