To be Liked or Respected? Is there a Difference?
Not an easy question to answer i feel.
What would you rather be, Liked or Respected?
I believe you can Like someone without Respecting them, and Respect someone without Liking them.
Example, whilst i respect that each and all of us have a right to an opinion, that doesnt mean i like it or even respect you for having it, i just respect your right to have one.
Do i like Gordonski?, mmm let me ponder that thought for a sec, Not sure, but i do like his blogs, Now do i respect Gordonski?, Thats easier to answer, YES, i respect that he has an ability to write well and has a talent for doing so, I also respect that he calls a spade a spade and is not backward in coming forward. I also respect that in the few comments we have shared, we have been polite and courteous to each other.
Now i have used Gordonski as an example only.
Some people i respect, (just to name a few)
Gordonski, Teddy, Nessa, Elmo, Backintolight, Shay, Serenity (Red), Goldenhinde, Coffemix, Jac, Frankenstein, Cherriebabe, (nearly forgot you) Maddog, LonelyMontse08, Musicfreak, Virgo, Cyn_Real, Saskia and Jana amongst others, for varying reasons
Now for people i like,(again, just to name a few)
Nessa, Serenity, Teddy, Shay, Nonsmoker, Musicfreak, Goldenhinde, Rob747, Backintolight, Halfavag, Waf, LonelyMontse08, Parti, Cherriebabe (jezz nearly missed you again
)amongst others,
Now a name may appear on both lists, that would only be due to the fact that i have got to know those ppl better, Then there are some on one list but not the other, that may be due to the fact i dont know them as well as some.
Now if your name does not appear on either list, that does not mean that i dislike or disrespect you, it just means that i do not think of or about you as much or at all.
I may have even forgot to include your name. To me there is a difference between like and respect, i can respect you but not like you and i can like you, but not respect you.
To me, i'd rather be respected. Of course if i could be liked and respected at the same time, that would be ok.
It is love we all seek, but to be loved, one must first be respected, not liked.
Just my opinion.
Comments (65)
it's just an example... you can make your own conclusion...
Words that ring true.
I hear and understand the self respect/ self like attitude.
But even you dear sir, must have some that you respect for whatever reasons and are glad that you have the respect of some.
As i said, i'd rather be respected than liked, even if i was being respected for my the choices i have made that maybe wrong.
Courage of conviction is another ingredient i respect in a person and you too have that, as not many here do.
we haven´t blogged to each other on this site so
I am not so bright, the words I am posted are not mine;
"We want to be loved - if it is not possible
we want to be respected - if it is not possible
we want to be - hated. Any feeling to feel..."
sorry for blatant
My role in team is .... socializer, "fitter who fitts the fitting" among team members. My boss chose me and ecpects me to be so. It is extremely difficult sometimes.
Backintolight
It's difficult sometimes
I always try to be nice to everyone to fit in and there will always be haters.. Yes, it's difficult to fit in sometimes although we have tried our best..
Hi Saggi
Nice to meet you as well.
I have read many of your comments on other blogs,
The position you hold at work is from the respect of your boss. He believes that you could/would handle it with great ease.
Congratulations to you.
haters are people who are not loved, people who even do not love themselves. Their hate is just asking for " love me" but they do not understand,what you send out you are given back
be strong and take care Light
.....I don't worry too much about being liked as I am not here to win some popularity contest ... "take as I am or watch me as I walk away"
..... I respect those that deserve it ..... I feel it is better to be respected than it is to be popular. Popularity ends .... but respect can lasts forever.
Without getting to carried away,
your words are most profound.
You know the respect i have for you.
As for popularity contests, i too have failed at them and now believe it is much better to have the respect of myself and to earn the respect of of my peers.
Sth Africa. 2-230 odd, Great start by your boys.
take care my friend.
Vulpine is indeed a lucky fella.
Say hello to him for me and your young one as well.
Yep. Arch enemies very often have the highest of respect for each other, whether it's in politics, War or... maybe even blogs.
like a few others, you are always polite, respectful and never have a cross word to say about anyone.
You are a credit to yourself and i am certain that i am not alone who has much respect for you.
So very true, as i have said, one can be liked and not respected as well as being respected and not liked.
One must learn to like/love and respect themselves before they can hope to be respected.
Just my opinion.
Of coourse, it s not possible nor necessary to like everyone and about respect things are even tougher.
I credit everyone till they show what they deserve in my scale. If we talk about CS, I like many, respect a lot of people too, disrespect and dislike some and a couple of people just don t exist for me.
About popularity, I have enough, here and in real life. Under my previous account, Jana28, I was a very active blogger and a big ammount of the blogs of the first 2 pages (comments) were mine, including the first place for a long period. This popularity brought me great moments and also a lot of jealousy and envy. Generally, I like glory but I also am a very private person. I like to be liked but I prefer to be respected.
The most important for me though, is to be liked and respected by myself. The self-respect is on the top of my scale and I can even sacrifice love for it.
thank you for your words.
I guess maddog said it best when he said even the worst of enemies have respect for each other yet they can despise each other at the same time.
There i thinks lays the problem, i guess we can all begrudgingly respect someone yet vehemently despise them.
Thus i think this is where the like part comes into it.
I once heard a champion sportsman (Australian) say, "it nice to be considered a champion amongst my peers, but it is champion to be respected by those whom i respect"
Self respect and like is something quite a few lack.
Whilst it is always nice to be popular, i do not think that to be the driving force behind us all wanting to be respected.
Just my thought.
Now you didn't ask but....people I dislike on here...about a dozen...people I absolutly detest about 5 or 6.
I think he has mentioned that a few thousand times
You have read what was not said, i didnt want to cause trouble, but you are right, there are a few i do not like nor respect, but i wanted to stay as positive as i could with the topic and choose not to look at all angles.
I understand your comments, That is why i said "some" have a "begrudging" respect for some, Meaning that they may despise them, but allow them respect.
This was mainly meant for big businesses and even war time leaders.
There is an old saying i believe, "Always afford respect to your enemies"
I think this means if you take them for granted, you may end up losing.
I have used the term "you" not meaning yourself, but figuratively speaking.
Thank you for your thoughts.
and i guess he will keep on saying it.
To answer your question, I'd rather be respected by a small group of people than be liked by a lot of people. I don't really worry if people like me or not. Someone who respects you and holds you in high regard is the ultimate compliment. I'd rather have that!
Take care!