connect1954

connect1954

Jan 2013

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Folks I need your help. No silly comments or jokes

A friend of mine wants to give up living, as he was mobbed by the family of his wife and her kids. He is the stepfather. He’s wife is in coma since more then one year. He did, what the doctor told him to do. Play music, read letters, visit, you know what I mean. Never a thank you from anyone. He even left a mobile phone in hospital and called so the nurse could hold the mobile closed to the ear of his wife. Now he was told, not to do so anymore. Well, he paid for everything. He will die over this love to that woman. I can’t do anything, as I live too far away. I call, I write, I send text, I stay in contact. But I do not have big hopes anymore. He also refuses to go and see a doc himself. The family of his wife want him to give up on her. He can’t and don’t want too. The situation is pretty dangerous. Any of you who had similar experiences? If so, what can he do? Thank’s your help.

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particolor●Inverell, New South Wales Australia

Jan 14, 2013●9,376 Comments

well thats Knocked Me Out!!!

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connect1954OP●Basel, Basel-Stadt Switzerland

Jan 14, 2013●70 Blogs●289 Comments

TKs parti, any idea?

cupidsoul●4, Wicklow Ireland

Jan 14, 2013●9 Blogs●80 Comments

Feel so bad for your friend.
I wouldn't even pretend to know any answers or how he must be feeling, but as his husband is he not ,legally, her next of kin. Her family have a say of course but ultimately he has rights to make certain decisions.
Friendship is the most important thing for him right now and I'm sure he's comforted by yours. I hope things improve.

Glatlol●Dublin, Ireland

Jan 14, 2013●1 Blogs●571 Comments

Is he her next of kin? If so its up to him. What do you mean by dangerous?

connect1954OP●Basel, Basel-Stadt Switzerland

Jan 14, 2013●70 Blogs●289 Comments

He has no strength left, worn out, and therefore, the family taken over, yes he is next of kin, but the family just talked theier way in. Dangerous I mean, I never know, if he is still alive or not. Always hoping, he answers the phone, writes back, answers email and so on.

particolor●Inverell, New South Wales Australia

Jan 14, 2013●9,376 Comments

I read it again and thats Complicated one and I will leave it for the Resident CS EXPERTS !!

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connect1954OP●Basel, Basel-Stadt Switzerland

Jan 14, 2013●70 Blogs●289 Comments

Thanks to all of you, I'm off to bed now, hope to read some more comments tomorrow. Good night, sleep tight.

zmountainman●Motril, Andalusia Spain

Jan 14, 2013●107 Blogs●7,852 Comments

Connect, do you think he might be persuaded to come on here so we can talk to him & offer a bit of support, obviously there's nothing we can do physically but sometimes talking things over can help?

itchywitch●galway, Galway Ireland

Jan 14, 2013●1 Blogs●3,435 Comments

Hi connect

I'm not sure what you mean by the situation is pretty dangerous? and i'm not sure either why hes not giving up on her when he you said, has already given up on himself? it makes no sense

but you know maybe thats where you might find the advice and help your seeking... Your friend doesn't really want to die thats why he's holding onto reason

JulesLove●Jakarta, Indonesia

Jan 14, 2013●6 Blogs●310 Comments

Thats called true love.
well, he is a husband of this coma wife and he still obligated to take care of his wife. he supposed to say to her family that he still want to take care of her. and try to convince the family that he really love her and tell them that he will die over this love. I'm sure her family will understand and thank him for that.
but this is also kinda hard at the same time he want to give up living. I think his friends or his family should support him in this situation, so after he feel better. he can decide whatever he wants to do. before too late.

AmusThree●Dublin, Ireland

Jan 14, 2013●15 Blogs●442 Comments

he may need to accept she's gone...I'm sure the doctors have done everything for her in the last year...there must be some death acceptence councillor (sorry can't remember the right term) he has been talking to because nobody should be left in that situation otherwise he wouldn't feel suicidal...in my opinion

Checkers101●terre haute, Florida USA

Jan 14, 2013●105 Blogs●223 Comments

I think, and this is just my opinion but he should keep doing what he is doing {like doctors have never been wrong?} I firmly believe where there is life there is hope.

One thing I really hope is that no one decides to bury me before I am dead.

If you pray then pray for your friend and if he prays he should pray for her. God will show the way, it isn't always what we want but he does show the way if we let him.

Peace

Cyn_Real●Happily Taken,, New Territories Hong Kong

Jan 14, 2013●15 Blogs●542 Comments

when one of my uncles got illness, my aunty stayed beside him 'till he passed away...true love does exist...!!! I don't talk about BS, my big fam member very very rare go to court for divorce application...

serendipity615●Warminster, Pennsylvania USA

Jan 14, 2013●103 Blogs●882 Comments

It appears, your friend loves his wife very much, and that he feels hopeless without her,since he seems to be more concerned for her,than himself. He needs close support from family and friends,in helping him through this difficult time. Does your friend go to a church? Be great if he was able to talk one on one with a Pastor,who could help him in his situation,in giving him the added support that he needs.

I will pray for your friend and his wife's family!

With love,God bless! Serendipity.

Checkers101●terre haute, Florida USA

Jan 14, 2013●105 Blogs●223 Comments

All of us who pray will be praying for you and your friend. I know how hard it is to see one you care about suffer.

There is power in prayer

God bless

morgen90210●singapore, Central Singapore Singapore

Jan 14, 2013●27 Blogs●359 Comments

Connect ...i'm compel by my Spirit(soul) to share with you Life's greatest treasure ...God himself ...No power on heaven.earth or hell can stop if JESUS intervene ...pray with faith and if possible a group prayer is better than the miracle of god will happen ...Remember the story of the sick bedridden man carried by his friends ... I'm not worthy to join in prayer ... His angels are watching over so pray with belief ...i'll share wit you mine ...my mother was hospitalized on 10 oct 12 in ICU and she look pretty bad ...i post it here in poet's corner and within a week she came out of coma and thou fragile pullthrou ... My friends here with their prayers helped against the odds coz Jesus is a compassionate man ... So as they pray so shall a miracle happen and you will post that here soon enough ..coz my faith is not on humans and their science ...it IS the faith in Jesus Christ And HE never fails .

Calliopesgirl●Nashville, Tennessee USA

Jan 14, 2013●322 Blogs●5,311 Comments

I will also pray....

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