Overseas relationships do not work....

and neither do long distance relationships.

Actually, I don't find that people are really trustworthy these days. There are too many characters out there looking for the bigger better deal. Too many men (I've encountered) looking for the next notch on their belt or bed frame or whatever. But, once I ask my questions, I pretty much know what they want.

It's cool. If you're that type of person then more power to you. It's just not what I want. And, we all want what we want...yes?

But, if you think that overseas relationships and long distance relationships can work - haha, don't be surprised to hear that the person you're seeing is also seeing someone else or worse, many more others. These people know how many they can handle.

So there was this guy who contacted me, he said he read my profile and that he lived overseas. I think he said he lived in Germany, but said he was from South Africa or something like that. He travels for work. He complimented me on several of my pictures and said he would be coming to the states in 6 months and if I would like to meet him. "Why?” I thought, "If he read my profile, he would know what I wanted - and that it wasn't him. I wonder if he thinks he can sway my decision...let's see", I continue to think.

Of course - I run down my list of criteria and no, he's not what I want. So just to make sure, I ask him: How tall are you? 5'9" What is the most important thing to you in your life? "A woman, if I had one" he says. Then he continues down the list "...my job, my kids..." STOP! "Oh how many kids do you have?" I ask.
He says he doesn’t have any and wants kids. "Oh, really how many do you imagine having, IF you find the right woman of course?” I say.

He says, "I want two."

I then proceed to tell him I'm definitely not the woman for him. He wants kids and I would be a waste of time or a stepping stone to his next woman. And, Lord knows I don't want to be anyone’s stepping stone...I want to be the last woman to the man that matches me.

As I'm telling him this information, he asks me if I want to be friends with benefits. He asks me if I need any satisfaction. I ponder a bit...well I do have needs...but, I would rather have myself all stitched up down there than have someone I'm not attracted to and who's not a potential "forever" on top of me.

Wonderful! The truth comes out.

He tells me he can satisfy me in everyway.

I think, "Hahaha, nope, sorry you can't satisfy me in everyway. My gag reflexes would be set off or I'd need a blind fold..."

1. I don't find you attractive. 2. You're not husband material. 3. You want kids, which doesn't match me at all 4. You live overseas anyway...and that will never work out if I want to see you everyday. 5. You're too short for me 6. Did I mention I'm not attracted to you?

There's more to the list...but, why bother typing it all out.

I could add that he approached me exactly as I have stated everyone seems to approach me. With lies. He wanted to appear as though he would be interested in long term and really he just wanted a fling. The friends request was absolutely priceless!

How methodical. If he's capable of doing that...what else is he capable of?

One thing I do know...overseas doesn't work and liars don't work either. I do however, appreciate that the truth came out later. But, what I decided to do with it was my choice ultimately - I chose to walk away from it.

He's now on my blocked list. There's no sense of "that" resurfacing its ugly head. And, he's better off not hearing anymore rejections from me.