Tapping my fingers... waiting
So... you look across to a person you have known for ten years,theres' a change. You look around you and your friends are all changing. They are greyer... more wrinkled... you can see their life journey etched on their features. Some have clearly had a harder journey than others.
But..if that is what I am seeing... what reflects into their eyes. I haven't aged in my mind, but clearly... I have. I just can't do what I once did.
We like to believe we don't judge, but we do... in everything we do... we judge our food, and choose our preferences. We judge our partners and look for ideal features. We ascertain little things in life by judging where they stand for us. The word 'judging' has been given a hard rap. Judgement is not always bad... it's often how we choose new friends and lovers; it's how we explore food and other things in life.
I do recall when I was a teenager I scathingly said to someone that, "I never want to be old... Like 30 or something. I mean seriously that is so far away"... I was 16 and it caused a lot of concern for the person I said it to. They mistakenly thought I was destructive... I think the word they were looking for should have been 'naive'.
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I don't think "judging" what is right for us or what we like is wrong. I know at this stage what I want in life and in a partner and that isn't a bad thing for me.
Yes the word may be naive, but then again I never think I said I do not want to grow older. I think every age has it's charm and I do love myself at my age now. I am going to be 53 this summer, and I have a friend from school who tells me she do not want to be 53... in her mind that's to old. That's the difference, the way of seeing it. I do really like myself at age 52, to become 53. I have sort of found myself if you can understand. I do feel so much more confident and happy in myself than I have ever done before. I find life worth living and I do love my life the way I live it. In fact I am much more happy now then I have ever been before... so I welcome the older age and I love it.
oh who am I kidding here ,...
I often think that life would lose its meaning if we would live forever ,okay a chance to spend some 200 years in a 30 year old body would be nice tho ...
i,m surpized you have not got more hits on this blog ...the subject matter...i think it depends on the journey we have. like you said that the journey that someone has taken can clearly be seen in that perso features ...sometimes you can see people for who thay are ...in some ways the very journey i am on now is somewhat at the cross roads i am 40 ...and am well aware that there is no going back now ...and hope that the rest is with beening happy cheerfull and few regrets...if i was tto rate this blog ...i would give it 110 out of 100...because the thoughts or feelings on this are endless....we are as young as we feel ....and i keep in contact with a lot of my friends so i dont see the ageing process as much as you would if you had not seen someone for a long time ......anyway this is one hell of a blog and deserving of more attention
Yes, it's hard to believe you are in your late thirties.
I think we improve as we get older, we are more relaxed with an incredible range of topics to discuss with someone new... but alas, there are still people out there that want to behave like they are 20... and I don't just mean hanging from chandeliers in the bedroom.
It's always so obvious that you are happy and I love that.
I guess because I have constantly moved in life and changed locations that I do not see people for years and sometimes the change can be quite startling for me. Although, oddly enough in my head... people stay as they are when I first meet them. I do see their exterior facade, but what I remember is who that person essentially is. I have a lot to be thankful for with my choice of friends, they truly are exceptional.
Happy 40th by the way. Obviously I missed it.
Some people never grow up,
Nice to see you.
I am considering joining this club... after the pill for "younger"..
By the way, I've never run across men singing a song about impotency,
I looked at your blog earlier today, but did not know how to respond then. I get very despondent when somebody talks about aging!
Yes, we all age; that is one of the sure things of life. For about twenty years we grow and then we start dieing. Luckily it is a slow process.
All we can do is try to make sure we age by only one day for each day that go by. But then something happens to upset the applecart and we become years older overnight.
Fortunately it is not all bad news. While aging we still grow; only in other areas. No, not just sideways. We gain in experience, knowledge and wisdom; which we can apply to make aging easier.
On a lighter note, age normally brings wisdom with it, but sometimes age comes alone!
I have never seen you in the blogosphere... Nice to see you.
Isn't that true...that our perceptions alter over time. When I look back and know that I have had friends for 30 years, left school 26 years ago... It all just flies past.
So now you are the 'old guy' with the experience? I actually believe I know that feeling these days.
May I please wear your rose coloured glasses for a wee moment???