LDRs contd.

(this is contd from the other one --- too many words for just one blog post)

Sure in a LDR – you can dream and fantasize thru emails, im’ing, on camera, and phone calls. But reality is reality and eventually it must be. The luxury of distance is that you don’t have to think about the other person’s little quirks and habits that you don’t have to deal with daily – due to the distance – you just see the fantasy of romance and lust – everything is perfect. In the reality of it all – you put your life on hold – don’t get out there and date in the real world – isolate yourself – for the fantasy of a relationship that really doesn’t exist in more than your dreams. Ask yourself some of the really hard questions – see above – before you consider this route. Also consider the fact that relationships do end sometimes – do you stay in the new country and try to build a new life? Do you come back home – embarrassed and ashamed that you got sucked up in a fantasy – then have to start all over again to rebuild your life? Will you have the money for that? Will you have to beg for financial assistance from friends and family? Is it worth putting those loved ones in that possible position?

Don’t get me wrong – love is a risky deal – and I’m up to taking them for the right person. But I’d rather find that person in my own “backyard” than risk all my safety and security to chase a fantasy. That is the wisdom of age and experience for me. Some might say it’s because I haven’t a romantic bone in my body – not true – but what I am is a realist and pragmatic. If you’re young and unencumbered, I’m sure you feel different. Do be careful and wise in your decisions in matters of the heart.

Be well my friends......cheers!