Sorry Seems To Be The Hardest Word

I'm not an Elton or Blue fan btw, just getting that out there. This is not an homage to them.

“Sorry” is such powerful word, but very much underused.

Why is it, that in a disagreement it’s so hard to say “Sorry”, even when you know it will probably fix everything? Our stupid sense of pride and self righteousness kicks in. Saying sorry doesn’t mean accepting liability or admitting you were wrong. You can apologise for how you made the other person feel without actually saying you did anything wrong.

We find it so easy so say “Sorry” to acquaintances, "I’m sorry to hear your cat died”. This doesn’t actually mean you’ve killed their cat, so why can’t we say sorry to the people we love? Obviously throwing a “Sorry” out there, and not meaning it, is pointless. You have to be sensitive enough to realise that, whether intentionally or not, your actions or what you said hurt someone. We have no control over what upsets us, yes we can learn to control our emotions, but just because we might hide the fact we’re upset, said situation will still hurt, and therefore deserves recognition.

I come from a long line of grudge holders, and I have the potential to do it myself. But having seen how damaging that can be, how pathetic it actually is to go so long harbouring ill feeling towards someone else, I’m making a conscious effort to try not to do it myself. Of course there is a difference between removing yourself from an abusive, destructive, or selfish person or situation in order to save yourself, but holding a grudge against a loved one over something that at the end of the day doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things, only serves for a lifetime of guilt when one or the other passes on.

So for my part... I’m Sorry.