The Frog And The Scorpion
Is it not strange how our nature can dictate our actions, sometimes even against our better judgement. As they say here in Africa: “A leopard can change his colour, but not his spots.”It is said that a scorpion wanted to cross a river and asked a frog to ferry him across.
“No,” said the frog while keeping a safe distance, “You will sting me and I will die.”
The scorpion kept on begging the frog, promising that he would not sting him and eventually the frog gave in and allowed the scorpion to get on his back. He swam across the full river and as he reached the other side the scorpion stuck his sting firmly into the frog’s back the moment he realised that they were on dry ground again.
“Why did you do that?” gasped the dieing frog. “I was helping you.”
“Yes, I know,” said the scorpion, “but that is my nature.”
You cannot change your nature, especially not for the sake of somebody else. Oh, you can only hide it, but only for a while. So if you meet somebody, don’t try to change the person. People cannot change; not for long in any way.
It is for you to decide if you can live with it or not. If you cannot, let it go; it is not for you.
Comments (38)
So true.
Been there and have the scars to prove it. Alas, I still trust too easily!
Good blog
Hi all
Oh yeah FROG !
qua-qua ...
I think but it does not help me...
I'm hopeless...
loveloveloveloveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Exactly the same thing. Know who/what you're dealing with.
No need to thank me, honey. It is a free service I offer in the interest of a happier society.
I hope it will start people thinking. But then I should practise what I preach. This blog was spurred by something that happened this week. Something long overdue, but brought about my blog earlier this week.
Hmm, my vice too, but is it really a vice? I have been kicked in the face many times, but I still think it is better to have trusted and lost, than never to have trusted. And that goes for love too. You can never know beforehand and you may well end up spending the rest of your life wondering how it would have panned out.
Me? A frog? Never, I cannot even speak French!
How are you keeping girl?
eedjitCailin,I must disagree with you. Parents have about seven years to form the character of a child. Thereafter nothing will ever change that person.
Yes, you can improve yourself, but the direction of those "improvements" will be determined by your nature. Every expansion of your character will be built on the original foundations.
You have not changed since childhood, Cailin. You have developed and you have expanded, but you will never change from what your parents made of you when you were a toddler.
You can change of colour, but not of spots. You determine the colour, but the spots is your nature, as instilled by your parents.
But then, this is only my opinion.
Foti, love,love,love you too sweetie. You got the Internet back now?
When did you turn foti? Hell, you look much younger.
much younger... hmmmmm... sometimes...
Thank you
When I talked about the clothes we I mean your wedding dress.
And when I talked about the frog I had in mind the theme of your blog and my departure from this theme.
But you do not say, not only in French you do not even understand my english !
Yes, it will save you!!!
A frog is a Frenchman, I believe. But then I suspect you know that. They are your neighbours after all.
Rather they are your neighbors...
Well...
well I say there are 2 key words in relation to this
honesty and communication
Always be honest about what you want / need right from the beginning - then there can be no confusion .
Communication is vital --talk it out - compromise -
work at it -don't let something special go without trying --but as you say , if there are aspects of a person's nature that does not sit well , and can't be worked through , then ,perhaps it's just not meant to be
But you live in Spain now, don't you?
My neighbours are Swazis, Zimbabweans, Namibians etc. No frogs around here.
But of course I missed you. Nobody else ever gives me the tongue.
Bon Appetit Cat...
My experience taught me not to declare my requirements too quickly; that is where the pretending start. Rather get to know the other person and get to know his/her shortcomings and decide if you can live with it. If not, there is no point in proceeding, no matter how much you love the person, at some stage you will get fed up.
Talk about that, I'm hungry. I think I must defrost something.
or...
but it would be better if two or more...
There's often a motor now...
SO...
You will have to be more specific. One cannot defrost the wrong stuff.
Some people have been looking for you. When people look for me I'm normally in trouble.
Oh, but you're right! Some people are insects. And some other are toads, frogs, pigs, dogs, sharks and what all. And then there are the reptilians too.
The woman next door is a scorpio.
By been kind and letting her have two bins and myself one, I opened the gate as she asked, and she took my kindness as some form of weakness, and then loaded a whole van full of cow dung in the drive.
so, she stung me for my kindness and/or took it for something else and stung me.
A business person gave her a job, when she was desperate, he even made her manager, then she took his staff and took him out of business, with the same kind of business, even hired someone to break in and find his secret recipe mix he was putting in the bread,
Stung again! Guess its in her nature, as the creature itself.
I have not seen you for ages!
It is funny; when you offer a finger, some people will grab your whole hand and rip off your arm in the process.
Keep well.