CHEMISTRY AND /OR DO WE CONNECT??

I have come to hate those two words...back in my dating days..70s/80s.. it was is she hot???.. do you think she is attractive?? and that was it...
When i got out of high school '68" ..IF .. you worked hard.. you were reasonably clean..bathed regular..put the seat down on the toliet came home after work ..did not stop at the bar with your single buddies before going home .. did not beat the little lady..the kids or your dog...you were a keeper!!! if you did not smoke or drink ..bonus points...
and what is this about chemistry??? i know bad..chemistry..good..volitle..mixed... its all chemistry..what does that have to do with two people liking each other.. ???????
i have decided i am tired of women telling me what fun they have with me..how they feel safe with me..they enjoy my company.. i am a nice guy.i make them feel good....but ..they cannt see me anymore because there is no connection ??? or chemistry so what the h--l is that all about sounds like a load of c--p to me... personally i think its a way out for women.. you know men are shallow... women are not... so they could never get away with just saying..i really like you ..but am not attracted..your just too fat!!! guess then women would have to admit..that yes virgina..women like men are very shallow indeed!!!!!