Relationships: love vs compatibility

I say that compatibility wins out over love every time. Countless people who love each other can't even live together without fussing and fighting. People who are compatible (even if not in love) live a much more peaceful life. And, if compatible, love is bound to strike sooner or later.
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I believe they go hand in hand. Perhaps you are mixing passion up here. With compatibility you will love the person for who they are.
@Abagail How hand in hand?? Love is impulsive...compatibility nowhere in the sight at the point of time.
@buddylewis compatibility can follow love....love does not follow anything but the lover or beloved...may be compatible or not...if by love you mean a tool of workable relation...then its alright.
iotaoo... Love is impulsive? Whilst it can be, it is not wholly defined by that. Look at your love of nature, the love of a child, the love of a friend...

If you look the definition of 'love' ... I don't believe the word 'impulsive' is mentioned. That is attributed by personal experience by individuals.
doh love when you are older or should I say when I am older is not compulsive. Compatibility sharing then comes true love.
Compulsive attitudes are controlled and measured for what they are. Nothing yet nothing should control you, you should be in controll of self. Makes for a more peaceful happy life. You then can introduce excitmentpeace
... the crux of the issue here is that people do in face misconstrue things. Quoting yourself earlier---" Love is impulsive...compatibility nowhere in the sight at the point of time."

This is personal experience and therefore it's based on your personal emotive response. What if someone were to meet at a dance night, both individuals were passionate about dancing... and there was physical attraction as well. Compatibility might well be quite high considering they met at an event that they were both passionate about.
no not personal I was talking in general....your point is valid...but question still remains of preferences...well debatable????
Howdy do buddywave
love is boring and i think compatibility is too business like for my likingdunno
What if someone were to meet at a dance night, both individuals were passionate about dancing... and there was physical attraction as well. Compatibility might well be quite high considering they met at an event that they were both passionate about.
My point simply is one preferably dances with whom one is physically attracted....you are choosy...passion is most of times is the secondary consideration??
@itchywitch your ideas seem to be rather radicalized. applause
The way i see it tahoo...
neither mean nothing unless they have desire, afterall actions speak louder then words conversing wave
yes exactly...desire is the base reflected in the actions...words are the afterthoughts which can well hide the real intentions.
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which do you prefer?
to hear you are loved or feel loved insteaddunno
anybody can tell you they love you but it only takes a someBODY to make you feel it..... loved that is roll eyes wink
words flatter dear but appreciation is shallow without the experience....I go a further if you give the liberty??
I disagree, compatibility does not execute love, or give you an exist plan to be loved cartwheel
@butterflies thank you. your message is loud and clear.
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shallow without the experience, i like that handshake
guess we all have our own idea's on whats it all about but my own thought onit is, when it hits you like never before, when by just being with them makes everything feel right.. what else mattersdunno but saddly, love is not appriciated.. its a shallow world we live in and not a romantic oneheart wings

Thanks. Materialism exists at the expense of romance. You know why...the basic law to rule...people should not be masked off, if they do, they can be governed not ruled.
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Its both compatibility first and love both goes together You need a perfect chemistry of understanding thru eyes what he other wants to say to you
Itchy, this is completely off topic... But I really love Eva Cassidy's work. bouquet
compatibility speaks more volume... love at the first sight or got in crush will not last... why hurry ??? too hurry = boring... love takes time to develop...
i call it the rule of intelligent selection. once you have selected the partner wisely and not blinded by love - you can then love your subject ( your selection ) without any worries.
When I look at who I loved and had a great time with - someone I had a lot of things in common with, same background, similar interests and way of life - I need compatibility to fall in love with my special someone, and I can tell you, it was never boring. wine
If you meet someone and your compatible. Then everything should fall into place. It's very rare I feel, but it does happen. So I would say it goes hand in hand xx
Give what you want for yourself. Many including myself tend to be shallow when seeking that comfort zone of love. All those seeking opinions and thoughts about love and compatibility
until we learn to seek love from within we cannot offer what we do not have to others. Yes to be of one mind and heart and working on one goal is ideal yet in our separate little selves
we can feel surrounded and yet very much alone.
Understanding our motives and intentions helps. When we are clear of our intentions we can come to each other with a pure heart. However, human nature dictates nobody is ever good enough. We pick on each other finding little nuances and faults we set up a criteria in finding that compatibility. How many dating sites offer tests and quizzes to think that they can sort out the right person for another based on personality?
It's like we see several masks of a person of our affection and we try to take off the various masks of our object of affection while placing on others to suit us. Behind them all are tears of misunderstanding, hurt, anger, frustration, loneliness. Once in awhile we can find the hidden joy and peace of love from our friends. When you meet such a compatible friend in this life do not push them away too many times like a fool. For when in time of need they may not be there for you.
I am for love....fighting with the one i love can't be that bad afterall it promises making up....cheering
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